[daysofpurple]

I am exhausted and trampled right now. I had temp custody of my children for a year and a half after their dad and I separated. THen the divorce hearing rolls around and he gets full custody! He has had them now for almost four years and every time I think about it, it makes me sick. The judge never gave a reason as to why he made that choice. SInce then I have learned that my ex and his wife are telling me children that I don't want them, that I'm psycho, and no telling how many other things. I get them every other weekend, and every time they come down they tell me different things about what's going on at their dads' house. He's an alcoholic and drinks and drives with those babies in the car. He has a suspended license and still drives. I found out that he's been leaving the two older boys at home ALONE! (8 and 6 years old) I feel like nothing I do is getting anywhere. My family keeps saying that what is done in darkeness will come to light and I have tried to hold on to that all these years, but my faith is weakening every time someone looks the other way. Please tell me what I can do to a step in the right drection because what I've been trying is getting no results!!

[ScottGem]

Umm, where were you at this divorce hearing? Where was your atty? I can't believe a judge just handed the kids over to your ex without testimony or an explanation.

You need to document the dangers to the kids. Get witnesses to the fact they were left alone or he drove drunk. Have them call you the next time they are left alone, then call children's services and report it. Then get an attorney to regain custody.

[daysofpurple]

I was at the hearing and was a very bitter hearing. He and his family lied about anything and everything, trying to prove me an abusive and neglectful mother. My attorney was a joke. He was in bed with the other attorneys and the judge. I tried to have the hearing moved numerous times because I felt that it was not biased and the judge refused. I have documneted so many things includingt he multiple contempt charges, but nobody cares. The boys are not allowed to use the phone or even answer it. I don't know what exactly he has said to them but they are scared of him. Even at that when they were telling me about it they thought it was cool because they felt like big kids. So, it's really hard for me to explain to them why it's a bad thing. It's definitely something I will try to do though. Thank you for your response.