[ladyblueblue]

Hey,

My girlfriend suddenly broke up with me after 2 years being/living together. She met her ex g-friend 2 weeks ago for a drink as her ex doesn't live here and was only visiting. They haven's spoken at all or seen each other throughout those 2 years at all. Now she told me that the meeting sparkled feelings for her ex which she didn't know she still had (Her ex told her she still loved her and wanted to try again) and therefore she can not be with me anymore with the thought of wanting to try with her ex again in the back of her head. Everything was fine. We did not have any major issues in our relationship. We were looking for a house to buy together a week before she had the meeting with her ex. My g-friend told me that if she hadn't had seen her ex we would have most probably stayed together. But now she is confused and wants to be alone and go try with her ex again. So she basically just leaves everything like. She said she doesn't know what to do or if she is making the right decision but that is what she feels like doing and therefore she can not be with me anymore. I told her to move out from our place. I just don't understand how that could happen from one meeting after 2 years of not seeing her. She just throws everything away and says I am an amazing person but she can not be with me because she thinks now that she has never gotten over her ex. ( but she didn't feel like that at all before she saw her ex who told her she was still in love with her after 2 years of not seeing each other and to try again) so my g-friend just jumped on it.
I don't understand this? Please somebody help me.
Thanks so much

[talaniman]

Feelings change all the time, and just because you were into her so deep, its rather obvious she wasn't, or she was not telling you the whole truth. Either way its something you accept, and move beyond.

Sucks when you get dumped for sure. Read the stickies for some very helpful tips to move on.

[Devorameira]

So sorry to hear about the breakup... it must have been tough being happy one day and broke up the next. I'm sure you're devastated.

There's really nothing you can do about the situation. She's told you it's over, so you have to accept it and move on.

Don't let a failed relationship scar you for life. Start loving yourself again. Go out with friends, or spend more time with your family.

Just remember - After the storm comes the sun!

[Jake2008]

That is a sad situation, and I'm sorry that you are faced with such a life altering change, literally overnight.

This may sound strange, but it has nothing to do with you. Had your girlfriend been as committed as you were, a simple drink with an ex would not have turned your life upside down. I suspect that there was more communication going on somewhere in the background, and that they had kept in touch. I have a hard time swallowing that this was as 'sudden' and 'unexpected' and 'a surprise', as she says it was.

The plus side is, you now know that the relationship is over. She may regret what she has done, and it may be a matter of wanting to come back to you, and I hope you stay firm, and say no, and move on. Someone that fickle, if her story is to be believed, doesn't sound like a great partner to me.

All the best of luck to you in re-building your life.