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pinkgirl2010 · Jul 9, 2010, 01:45 PM

I have been with my boss for 11 months now he has a girl friend and a child that he lives with, he's just broke up with me he said he carnt do it on his girlfriend any more because he's scared in case she takes him and leaves , but he is still txtin me all the time and ringing me and when were in work he always kisses me an tells me he loves me I love him loads and have a baby myself to think ov but I just don't know what to do he always tells me time will prove what he thinks ov me but I carnt wait around forever what do I do xxxxx

talaniman · Jul 9, 2010, 01:53 PM

Then stop being his work girlfriend, as he goes home to someone else. Its you that allow him to fill your head with nonsense. Get professional at work, and not like some silly naïve school girl, that accepts any attention she can get, while he leaves work, and goes home to another female and child.

His words, and actions, don't match, and he sounds like he wants you on the side. Being second doesn't count in affairs of the heart.

This comes down to dignity, and self respect, YOURS, because he has none, for you, for himself, or the female and child he lives with.

Hmmm!! That could easily be you he is cheating on.

pinkgirl2010 · Jul 9, 2010, 02:08 PM

I do feel like the bit on the side but I know what is going on with him and the other girl he lives with her but is only there for the baby I feel horrible what am doing on her but I carnt control my feelings,he as been asking me to go out with him an

Cat1864 · Jul 9, 2010, 03:35 PM

Please use the My Answer box at the end of the thread. The Reply button doesn't allow full responses. Yours to Tal was cut-off. Thank you.

How do you know what is going on between him and the woman he lives with? If it is only through what he has told you, then it may not be the full truth. That he plays around with you at work says he isn't as worried about what she finds out as he says he is.

If he is concerned about what she might do, he needs to get his act together and get custody, etc. worked out legally. Until he does, he is stuck and cannot be fully involved with anyone other than her whatever their relationship is.

As Tal said, you need to think about yourself and your dignity. As you have said, you need to think about you and your child. If possible you might want to look at finding another job in case he decides to be vindictive should you put your foot down about his game playing.

Stop being the grass on the other side of the fence. If he had to deal with the daily ups and downs with you that he does with her, there would probably be another woman in your shoes.

vanheart · Jul 9, 2010, 10:17 PM

You not only got with your boss, but one you knew had a girlfriend & child. And you have a child.

Good example you're showing.

How about concentrating on your child, not a daddy.

Sounds like a bad movie. You both are to blame.

Get a new job & a wake up call, some self respect.

redhed35 · Jul 10, 2010, 12:28 AM

What is the purpose of working?

Does the job pay money,can you buy food,rent,clothes?

If the answer is yes,for me,I would be more concerned that you don't seem to realise the fall out of this relationship,its not just your heart on the ine,it's the roof over your head,its food on the table.

In today's economy jobs are not exactly falling out of the sky.

Time to take care of your own business,put on your professional hat,and put your heart in a drawer when your in work.

Walk away from the boss and get your priorities straight.

positiveparent · Jul 10, 2010, 06:30 AM

Move on let him go if need be change your job I think you realise that this with him is just him having his cake and eating it.

He doesn't intend to make anything of a worthwhile relationship with you, you're just his bit on the side.

Concentrate on you and your own baby.

Let this cheat go its spells nothing but disaster for all concenred.

Fr_Chuck · Jul 10, 2010, 07:54 AM

Cut it off with him, no he is not there just for the "child" that is the first lie all married ( or simular) men use when they want to justify their cheating

Devorameira · Jul 14, 2010, 07:49 AM

First off, it's NEVER a good idea to get involved with the boss.

It's obvious to me that he's never going to leave his girlfriend for you... to him you are just "a little on the side".

Have some pride and give him up. He's using you and there's just no future in it for you.