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    trisha002 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Mar 9, 2010, 06:13 PM
    We been together 4 months an he's seems not into me anymore
    I been with my boyfriend for 4 months an he don't want to have sex with me any more or kiss me any more, I've asked him about it all he says is" i dont know" or "what do you want me to say" I can lay naked next to him an he won't even touch me. He don't really talk to me either, But when I ask him about this he always tells me he cares about me an he loves me.
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    Mar 9, 2010, 06:38 PM

    Sounds like he is indecisive.

    You tried to communicate to him and he is not responding with anything useful.

    Remember, no communication = no relationship.

    I would sit him down and say that sex is important to you and would like to work on resolving the problem. (Which it sounds like you already have) So since he is unwilling, I would end it and move on to a better match for you.
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    Mar 9, 2010, 06:52 PM

    I agree with Carrot,

    If you have already tried to diplomatically talk to one of the people you are closest to in the world - that being your boyfriend - and he can't provide you with good reasons for his actions 0 or lack of, its time to leave him behind.

    Just be grateful that its only been four months and not four years when the feelings you currently have would have developed and grown massively!

    I guess it does really depend on how long he has acted this way, it may be that something is seriously on his mind. I wouldn't so much as give him an ultimatum i.e. "Either talk to me about whats wrong or Im leaving you". But make sure he understands how much you are being hurt...

    Again, if nothing changes and he doesn't provide answers there is only one course of action to follow...

    Walk away!
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    Mar 9, 2010, 07:01 PM

    Hello Trisha,

    I would sit down and talk it out with him, and be calm when you do so... You will not get any where if there is fighting, so try yo remain calm. Really figure out what is going on with him. He says that he loves and cares for you, which may all be true. Maybe he is going through something.

    How old are you two?

    How long have you known him prior to dating?

    Talk talk talk... That's the best thing you can do.
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    Mar 9, 2010, 07:10 PM

    Sounds more like he's not really interested in you anymore.

    Either way, communication is key.

    We can't read his mind, but you can ask him what he's thinking.
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    Mar 10, 2010, 08:09 PM

    Maybe the lust has started to wear off after only 4 months, and there is nothing left after that.

    Don't you guys do anything else besides the sex stuff, like date, or party with friends? Please say you don't live together already, and how old are you both?
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    Mar 10, 2010, 11:07 PM

    Seems this relationship has run its course-time to talk and find out.
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    Mar 11, 2010, 12:45 AM

    He loves you... Yet he doesn't kiss you

    He cares about you... Yet he can't even give you a valid reason why he doesn't want to have sex.

    You've already talked to him. You didn't get a real answer... Time to tell him to figure it out or your gone.

    The relationship has obviously turned into something you don't want. So find someone who is willing to give you that type of commitment.
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