[samitch73]

My partner and I had split up due to him texting a girl from work and the fact he said he wasn't in love with me anymore and she was was just a comfort ear. We got back together last week and he was out and sent me a text "luv you*(the same girl surname) dont you forget it" he says it was meant for me and nothing is going on. What should I do?

[talaniman]

To make a mistake once is forgivable, to do it twice is plain dumb!

You forgave the first mistake, but you better think about it before you forgive this one.

[Jake2008]

"Luv you" and "love you" are two different things.

You said you broke up in part because he said he didn't love you. If he sent the text to you, but typed in her name by accident, "luv you" would make sense, that it was meant for you.

But, if he sent the text, meaning for it to go to her, but it went to you by accident, "luv you" still only means nothing more than you'd say to any friend.

It isn't "luv" honour and cherish, after all.

But, I would be more concerned that he's suddenly changed and has decided he loves you, but doesn't seem to be showing it enough to convince you that he is sincere- especially if you have lingering doubts as to his honesty.

I'm not sure I"d throw in the towel over a misplaced text, however, I'd be turning on the heat in the communication department.

[LJDK]

According to the dictionary Luv is exactly the same as love.

[Cat1864]

How long were you together before the split? How long had he been texting her before the split? How long were you split up?

Did the two of you work through the issues that caused the split before you got back together? Were any boundaries set as to communicating/texting with the co-worker?

First thought is that he needs to stay away from alcohol. Getting drunk does not help rebuild the trust in a relationship where it has been shaken.

Second thought is that he needs to be honest with you. His excuse of 'it was meant for you' rings as hollowly as a if he called you by her name in an intimate moment.

Third thought is that there is nothing going on with the co-worker because she doesn't want him or isn't free to be in a relationship with him. Possibly, he tried getting closer to her and found that she wasn't what he wanted after all. The grass was not greener nor did it maintain itself.

Discuss your concerns with him. Work together to set the boundaries on what is acceptable and what isn't for both of you. Explain that having a good time while he is out is great. Getting drunk and making mistakes isn't.

[jmjoseph]

According to the dictionary Luv is exactly the same as love.

Oh well, that solves it.

How about posting the link to what dictionary has "luv" in it. And not the urban one.

Jake was stating the difference in USE, not slang meaning.

Once again...