[asiangirl]

I apologize in advance for this being so lengthy! I just want to make sure you get all the facts to be able to hopefully help me out! I got married 4 years back to a guy of my choice. My parents were not happy with that and I made decision myself. In short, my family has totally bycotted me and they don’t meet me. I have 2 daughters. Initially my husband was very nice and caring to me but from last 3 years he has made my life miserable. He always scolds me and my family. Even if we are doing a little discussion that prolongs he start beating me. As Asian tradition I live with my in -laws. I try my best to keep his family happy. His parents are happy to me and he agrees that too. But still he has no respect from me. He only wants that I should serve him more as a servant than a wife. If I am talking to kids sometimes harshly if they are doing something wrong, he would say to them your mom is mad, stay away from him. I don’t know why he treats me like that. I am educated, doing a home job along with that I manage all other household activities but his attitude is growing harsher by each day. He says even if you will go and jump downstairs I don’t care and to marry you was the biggest mistake of my life. If he is in anger and I try to give explanation he says you are arguing and beats me. If I remain quite he beats me saying you are ignoring me. I am leading a pathetic life, but I can't do really anything. My parents wouldn't accept me and other than that I have no place to go. I have no friends with whom I can discuss. Ultimately I am bearing everything on my own and internally I feel as if my hearts has gone dead. I am 4 months pregnant and my days are being spent miserably in this condition. Even if I do some courage and try to leave all this he wouldn't allow me to take kids and without them I can't live. Please please suggest me what should I do. Please pray for me…

[JudyKayTee]

What do his parents do when he beats you and you are 4 months pregnant?

What Country? I don't know how he intends to keep you from leaving and taking your children so the Country is important.

[asiangirl]

His parents asks him not to do that, but they don't feel as bad as if they would for their real daughter. They might not like me too.. as I am not their choice, as I mentioned it was a love marriage.

I am from Pakistan and law really dominates males...

[talaniman]

What kind of relationship do you have with his mother?

[asiangirl]

We can call it a average relation. I give her respect and tries to keep her happy. Apparently wec can't say it a bad relation. Internally she likes me or nt, I can't say exactly..

[talaniman]

I cannot address the culture that gives him the right to beat you, but I can plainly see you need the support of your own family, or someone who can help you get out of this situation.

Is there a woman's help center near you? They can counsel you, and give you guidance.

[Mazee]

Praying for you and your kids! I left an abusive relationship and it is harder when you have kids! Sounds like he has no respect for you and if his family thinks his behavior is acceptable that is very wrong! I would get out as soon as possible with your kids! In a country that does not accept beating of women is acceptable, because it is not! Best of luck and may God be with you!