[pollyponey]

Its been a really bad year for me this past year. And things are really starting to get on top of me now. I just don't know what to do anymore for the best. And I don't know if I should maybe go and speak to someone.
Back in may 2009 I broke up with my long term boyfriend of 4 and a half years. At the time I knew it was the right thing to do but recently I just can't get him out of my head. Its really strange. I know part of me still loves him and I don't know what to do. I've been in relationships since being with him and they have never felt the same and just never worked out. In November 2009 I was involved in a car accident and this put a lot of stress on me. It was my first experience of a crash and I was petrified. Someone went straight into the side of me and caused me a few injuries. After the crash I hit rock bottom. I didn't want to eat, couldn't sleep, couldn't walk or lift anything, iit was horrible. Only now have I started to sleep properly and I've now started going back to work. I'm still suffering with back problems but the pain is a lot more bareble now. I'm having problems at home as well, my parents have been together for 23 years now and recently things aren't going to well. My mum is always on the internet on a social networking site and this is causing them to argue but not only that I'm worried about my dad. I think he is depressed. He doesn't seem himself recently and I just don't know what to do. I'm also in university and I'm struggling with it because I just can't find the motivation I used to have. I feel like part of me has just disappeared. I can't explain it. I have no energy and feel lifeless most of the time. Everything is getting on top of me and I really don't know how to solve any of these problems and would be grateful for any advice anyone can give me please. Do you think I need to speak to a councillor?

[JudyKayTee]

It sounds like you've had more than your share of problems recently. Yes, I think you should speak to someone. I'm sure this is adding to your problems - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ml#post2267928

I have found that when a person wonders if perhaps they need professional help, they do.

Keep in mind that your physical problems also affect your mental health.

I wish you well - it sounds like you are depressed and I'm sure a professional can help you.

[KBC]

Hi pollyponey,

From what you have written,you have a few too many things on your plate.

A look into what you need to prioritize in your life would be a start, what is the most pressing problem(s)?

A counselor/therapist would be an excellent place to get these things straightened out.

You are still suffering from the relationship ending.
You are worried about constant pains from the crash.
You are concerned for your families problems.

Use these as a base for opening up a discussion with any professional and go from there!