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    pollyponey Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
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    Mar 10, 2010, 07:51 AM
    He says he wants to be with me, but still isn't ?
    I have been seeing someone for just over 3 months. It didn't start on the best path because I used to date his best mate a few months back however we both knew what the concequences were if we carried on. And we can't help how we felt and we really like each other. Things were good, we spent a lot of time together, well as much as we could as he works away during the week and things went really well. However recently he is being distant and doesn't seem bothered with me anymore. I see him once a week for an hour or two if I'm lucky. He always seems to have time for mates etc. and a few times he has been out with one of his recent ex girlfriends and he said he needs to be nice to her as she owes him money. But to me this just doesn't seem right. I don't know what to do. Part of me knows I would should walk away but I really do like him a lot. Can someone please give me some advice? Thanks
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    Mar 10, 2010, 08:10 AM

    Doesn't seem like he's your priority anymore.

    Talk it out with him to see what's going on.

    No point dragging this relationship out if you're not on the same page.
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    Mar 10, 2010, 08:11 AM

    So he only has 1-2 hours a week to spend with you, BUT finds time to spend with his friends and ex-girlfriend?

    This is a no-brainer... definitely walk away. He's just keeping you hanging on as a back-up plan.
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    Mar 10, 2010, 08:55 AM

    He doesn't seem interested in you anymore. Stop worrying about him. You said it didn't start on the right path and it's already been 3 months and things aren't going well already. Time to move on.
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    Mar 10, 2010, 10:19 AM

    I would say.. Either $H!T or get off the pot!

    He either wants to be with you, or doesn't.

    You need to talk to him.. You need to talk to him about where this relationship is going.. And that its not OK for him to go out with an xgirlfriend... Phones are still a good way of communication if this x does indeed still owe him money... Why does he need to go out with her? That's a red flag to me right there.

    Talk to him. That's the only way you'll know.
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    Mar 10, 2010, 08:18 PM

    I guess your interest, and needs, are not as important as him doing his thing.

    Sorry but I don't even think you have a relationship.
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    Mar 12, 2010, 08:29 AM

    Thank you for your advise.
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