[iguessso]

My girlfriend is 18 years old. We have an equal agreement to hold off on sex until we're married. (Sorry if that displeases anyone but tough). Anyway, she told me that she's never experienced an orgasm and it's really frustrating her and getting her down that she can't seem to find a way to have one. She's even starting to worry that something's wrong with her body but her doctor told her that she's fine and needs to experiment more. The problem is, she's tried all different ways by herself and nothing works. When we're together, we've tried just about everything too but can't seem to get her there. She says that everything we do feels amazing, but it doesn't get her to orgasm. Neither one of us wants to give up but we're running out of methods or options. Every website gives the same basic info that "every girl is different" but she's so discouraged that she's the only girl she knows who is having trouble. Instead of saying "well that's life" does anyone have any positive info to help? It's not fair that she can't experience one. She deserves it.

[Synnen]

Yes.

She keeps experimenting, and STOPS making an orgasm the goal.

It doesn't work that way for most women.

She needs to just do what feels good, keep on masturbating, and just enjoy herself--WITHOUT worrying about an orgasm.

The more an orgasm is the goal, the less she'll be able to relax enough to achieve one.