[sharkedo]

I am considerably younger then my boyfriend. He has a son.. and I am here for them every day. I moved away from all of my family and friends to be here for them. I have been here for a year and a half now. Lately be and my boyfriend have been having a rough time.. it seems lately I am always upset about something.. and lately its been about trusting him with my heart my life.. and my future. I love him very much. He is a great guy. Takes care of me. etc. but my ex boyfriend did a lot of damage to me.. he cheated on me.. lied to me.. and went and did things behind my back.. and part of me is still really damaged from that. And I feel like I take it out on my current boyfriend.. but at the same time he has also made his own mistakes.. just one.. nothing as bad as what my ex did. But still.. I feel like I can't trust my current boyfriend.. and I know its not fair to him.. and sometimes I just wonder if I will ever get over this insecurity problem..

[mrs hollow]

It takes time to get usedto somebody after a difficult relationship but one thing you have got to understand is that npt all guys are the same. Have you tried talking to him about your insecurities . If he loves you he will listen but all you have to do is remember that you are stronger than ever for putting up with all that crap that you did.One day you will feel more secure again but like I say talk to and tell him how your feeling. Trust has to be earned because without that you might as well walk away...

[sharkedo]

Oh I completely agree. Its not that I think he will cheat.. or do anything.. I do trust him.. its just my mind gets the best of me sometimes.. and I think too much.. because like I said... my ex and other guys in general.. are usually interested in one thing. Whatever. I got hurt. So now I feel bad. I know not all guys are the same.. and this guy I'm with is amazing he has never made me feel differently. It's the fact that.. I got hurt once.. so now it feels like.. its just going to happen again.. because that's how its always been with me.. and I have talked to him about all of this.. he knows how I feel.. and how I can get. And he's good with talking to me about it. But again my mind just really gets the best of me.