[nicolii]

I currently love the idea of having an affair with a man who has a girlfriend for 18 months. We are both sexually attracted to each other and the signs are far from superficial. I have no intentions of splitting up their relationship and am by no means interested in a committed relationship with him. Its purely a sexual attraction, as in unbelievable mind blowing sex like nothing on this planet. The energies between us are intense. But would a guy really avoid a sexual affair if he feels it may risk his relationship. I just think you can enjoy the once off experience of a wonderful sexual encounter whilst in the end coming home to your true love that you care about. And I believe that what the partner does not know won't hurt her. To me its just taking advantage of a fantastic time in addition to your life. I mean would a guy really avoid you if he feels you are a threat to his relationship. And why would a guy approach you several times, then 5 weeks later mention his girlfriend, chase after you once he realises your interested in him, say nothing whilst sitting skin to skin in the sauna, then follow you again only to watch you have a shower (in bathers. Long story) whilst giggling and stroking his chin, then as soon as I show interest he bolts and I never see him again. Was he really scared? Did he have strong feelings that he knew could jeapordise his relationship. Or was he just enjoying the attention, chase, ego boost. Please help guys

[Alty]

I have no intentions of splitting up their relationship

Really? What do you think will happen?

Its purely a sexual attraction, as in unbelievable mind blowing sex like nothing on this planet

I hear that cocaine is mind blowing too, would you do that?

I just think you can enjoy the once off experience of a wonderful sexual encounter whilst in the end coming home to your true love that you care about

You can think that, but you're wrong.

And I believe that what the partner does not know won't hurt her

Wrong again. If he catches an STD from you, it will hurt her.

To me its just taking advantage of a fantastic time in addition to your life

Yes, it is taking advantage. The only person you're thinking about is yourself. Are you really that self centered?

I mean would a guy really avoid you if he feels you are a threat to his relationship

A decent guy would, a guy just looking for someone easy that's willing to spread her legs for a bit of fun, he'd probably jump at the chance.

Or was he just enjoying the attention, chase, ego boost. Please help guys

If a girl flirts with, strips in front of and basically tells a guy flat out "Yes, I'm that easy. Yes, I will have sex with you" then most guys will at least pay attention to that.

But, this guy seems to have a conscience and won't let you get to him.

In other words, he's looking for long term with a girl he loves and knows will be faithful. He's not looking for a wham bam thank you ma'am.

No worries, there are plenty of guys out there that would love to meet a girl like you.

[nicolii]

I get where your coming from and yes some things you said are useful. But we were at the swimming centre and he came after me. He scared the out of me when I turned around in the shower only to see him sitting there staring at me. But its true. He must be genuine which is a good thing. I just hate that he had a girlfriend.

[friend4u178]

Had to spread the love Alty but spot on!


So nicolii

What would you think of a girl that would be willing to do that to YOUR BF if you had one , don't become a H* , it's unbecoming :rolleyes:

[Just Dahlia]

That's just sad, find your own Man, there are plenty out there!

[paxe]

Hands off, he's with someone and you shouldn't get involved. You are just trying to invent some excuses but it doesn't work. Find your own man, there is plenty of fish out there... for men and women.

[talaniman]

Since your one of those people with no morals, and live to use, and be used, for entertainment, and fun, what's the problem??

He is a liar, and a cheater who enjoys you on the side, and then goes home to his girlfriend. DUH!!

Any liar, and cheater, would do that, and keep coming back for more, when it hits their fancy, because its easy, convenient, and free. Again, DUH!!