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metallicaxox · Jun 8, 2009, 05:31 PM

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over two years and we are planning on moving in together. Since we still live at home, we hardly get 'personal' time together. But when we do, it seems like he never wants to have sex. When I tell him I want to, he expects me to do all the work and be on top (which I don't particularly like too much). But that's not it, when we do have sex and are able to actually do it (no quickies) he likes it much better when I'm bent over (doggy style). It hurts my knees and I feel some what used and that he doesn't want to look at me. To me it seems like he's not really interested in me very much and is never in the mood when I am, and when he is, its quick and the way he wants it. I don't want to have to go through with this when we move out. I'm almost in the mood all the time, maybe because I don't get it that often, but even so, I don't want to deal with his 'not in the mood' every night.

Is there actually something 'wrong' with him, is it me, is there anything I can do or he can do to get his sex drive to match mine? I'm so lost! Help!

Megan2345 · Jun 8, 2009, 05:44 PM

I think you should tell him what you just posted. Communication and honesty are usually the key to any problem in a relationship.

metallicaxox · Jun 8, 2009, 07:06 PM

Originally Posted by Megan2345

I think you should tell him what you just posted. Communication and honesty are usually the key to any problem in a relationship.

I have tried to talk to him about it, but he mostly gets offended by it (guy thing?) and then I can't really discuss it with him because he doesn't want to talk about. It sucks a lot.

scott_1976 · Jun 8, 2009, 07:22 PM

Originally Posted by metallicaxox

i have tried to talk to him about it, but he mostly gets offended by it (guy thing?) and then i can't really discuss it with him because he doesnt want to talk about. it sucks a lot.

Like I tell my wife its all in the delivery. Sex is a subject that is very touchy for guys. You are saying you feel he doesn't really want you and you want more sex, he is hearing he is inadequate and can't please you. You have to find a way to explain to him what you want without making it seem like he is not pleasing you. Its hard, sometimes it seems like my wife and I speak entirely different languages but as you guys mature and get to know each other better it becomes easier! How old are you guys by the way??

metallicaxox · Jun 9, 2009, 12:11 AM

Originally Posted by scott_1976

Like I tell my wife its all in the delivery. Sex is a subject that is very touchy for guys. You are saying you feel he doesn't really want you and you want more sex, he is hearing he is inadequate and can't please you. You have to find a way to explain to him what you want without making it seem like he is not pleasing you. Its hard, sometimes it seems like my wife and I speak entirely different languages but as you guys mature and get to know each other better it becomes easier! How old are you guys by the way???

thanks, I will have to try and see if I can make it work. We are both 20, and I hope it does become easier in time =)