[acorn]

I have an issue whereas my mother left me with her "dad" and his girlfriend when she got married. I was 7. She then was allowed to come to the house and discipline me with belts, discourage me and verbally abuse me. No one ever told her not to. I am now 36. I always felt I should let her out of my life but whenever I did the entire family would say "oh she loves you" and all that. I kept a relationship with her because she is my mother and I love her but she seems to envy me. Well, that's the word she's used. I was a mistake, switched at birth (she said b4), I'll never have anything and on and on. Anyway, when she remarried she had 4 kids with her husband. Now her daughters want to verbally abuse me. She laughs.
My dad on the other hand is supportive of my talents. He does not want to sign my birth certificate and sees no reason why I'm persistent of it. He does want to keep a relationship according to his own standards. His daughters also are very disrespectful of me. They along with my mother's are always reminding me that they don't know me and that I shouldn't even try to be a sister to them. But whenever I try to let go it's like the world is falling apart for these parents that have not even helped me one bit unless of course I move to their states where I can be mistreated there and used for my talents or money.
Today, I told my mother not to call me again. She's always "you're ruining my life don't call me anymore."
I want to give them both a DNA test. I just don't see how I can be unattached to them both and disregarded.:confused:

[N0help4u]

How often do you call them?
How much do you encourage them to continue a relationship?

I would just keep communication with them to a bare minimum. Don't call them. When they call you just keep it brief and don't get suckered in to thinking they care more than they do.
When they say 'you are ruining their life don't call me any more' remind them that they are the ones that get mad when you want them out of your life.
Don't call them any more. People like that do not change.

[acorn]

I don't my dad at all anymore. I just let him call. My mom calls and insults and then she calls again. She always acts nicely for the initial part of the conversation but it always goes back to her blaming me for leaving her life at 6.

I think she's nuts and he just puts up a screen when he wants to. I do deserve better treatment than that. You're right people like that never change. It's the same as an abusive intimate relationship. When you go back you're looking for more abuse.

Thanks a lot for the advice!:)