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puddles · Dec 21, 2006, 10:52 AM

I really want by b\f back. He needs space. But possibly sees us together in the future, do I give it to him and risk losing him? He also wants to be with another guy who he is not sure about either. We have been apart a few months now and I am feeling desperate and I do not think this is a good place to be!

NJCUTIE77 · Dec 21, 2006, 10:57 AM

I am in a similar situation... My boyfriend wanted a "break" for a month... it's only been like 2 weeks.. but anyway, I let him have his "break"... It gives you a chance I guess to focus on yourself and your relationship from an outside perspective... what are his reasons for wanting space? If he says, "it's possible" to have a future, then I wouldn't wait for him... take care of yourself... believe me. I know it's very hard because I'm suffering from the same.. but trying my best to just live my life.

talaniman · Dec 21, 2006, 02:04 PM

puddles, Instead of waiting around for some confused person to find themselves, get you a life that you enjoy without them. Finding happiness is your job and no one else's. If you were thinking clearly you would be moving on, and leaveing this confused person to find their own way, and not be a doormat to some one whose actions say that they don't care. Ain't that much love in the world to let someone use you, is there?

Geoffersonairplane · Dec 21, 2006, 04:38 PM

I agree with tal...

He sounds confused and it is not fair for him to expect you to wait around and although he has not specifically suggested this, his lack of clear communication of what is going on and where you stand sounds more like he wants to keep you as a back up plan..

Sorry to say this...

Move On! Find a life without him..

Is there a chance for you two to be together again.. Maybe, maybe not but waiting around won't do you any good.

So, best thing to do is find a life without him now! There is usually light at the end of most tunnels if you are brave enough to travel through it.

s_cianci · Dec 21, 2006, 06:39 PM

Give him all the space he needs. Yes, you risk losing him but if that's the case then you never had him to begin with. You go on to say that "he also wants to be with another guy who he is not sure about either." Does that mean he's questioning his own sexuality? That's not a healthy sign. Either way, you're better off giving him the space he says he wants and letting him chase you. If things don't work out then it wasn't meant to be.