[blue1423]

Hey, well me and my girlfriend have been dating for around 9 months. We were doing all right... she got stressed a lot though and we ended up fighting a lot, this morning we were doing fine, she said she loved me, I was amazing, she wants me, she wants to marry me can't wait to have kids etc. acting normal showing no sign that she would want to break up,

Well then she had a long talk with her mom later today talking about what she really wanted and etc.

Soon after that I went over to her house and we talked about it, she told me its not me its "how she feels" and she told me how she felt was that she didn't want to be in a relationship right now, that we were getting too serious (which doesn't make sense to me seeing she ALWAYS talked about staying with me forever and having a family in the future) also saying she wanted to start hanging out with her friends again (which also doesn't make sense because she was hanging out with her friends plenty of times while we were dating) then she said she wanted to focus on schoolwork... but her grades wernt really slipping.

So I was thinking it was some other guy and I asked her about it she said no, and I think she was being honest. So pretty much she left me because we were too serious... and she wanted to focus on her life, wanted to "see other people", but at the same time she said she wanted to be with me and she still loved me.

So I figured today would be a perfect time for a break, I told her that I understood and I was totally going to change to not bring up anything that would cause her stress and make it a lot easier and not see her as often and we could have a break. But she just said no... she wanted to break up and end it all because she was getting too stressed about everything but I don't see how she doesn't realize a break would fix it and I woulndt cause anymore stress again. She also said anything I say won't change her mind.

Its just amazing how she suddenly had that change in feeling after that talk with her mom... I talked to her mom earlier today and she said that she was sad about it, almost regretting it.

And here I am now, should I call her and see if she comes crying back realizing she made a mistake? Seeing that she's starting to regret it?

[Ren6]

Frankly, you two fight a lot, and you've only been together for nine months. She went from wanting to marry you and have kids at the beginning of the day to wanting nothing of the sort with you by the end of the same day. I can't imagine how stressful being in this relationship must be! I'd jump off this roller coaster and find somebody else.

[liz28]

You can't get someone back or win someone back that doesn't want to be with you. Right now her heart isn't into your relationship or maybe she got scared about seriousness of the relationship or she really is stressed or there might someone else but the list is endless. The point is that she didn't want to and make the relationship work because it takes two people to make a relationship last not one.

I know I get stressed out at tmes but wouldn't end my relationship with my fiancé because of it. If anything he helps me through it. The whole break thing could've been an excuse because maybe she didn't know how to be woman enough to tell you that she didn't want to be with you no more.

Don't call nor sit around and wait for her to call. Move forward.