So he hasn't ever been tested, right?
Well, sure its possible... for ex, studies in major med journals, such as JAMA, report that herpes carriers can shed the virus while being asymptomatic, showing no blisters at the time of shedding... and some carriers simply show no symptoms of carrying the virus at all.
HPV, some forms of which are tied to ovarian cancer, is another ex where he could be exposed and absolutely asymptomatic.
I get that your "spin" is different here... you've been with him for several years, so you are asking whether you could still contract an std after so long together and your testing negative...
The best thing to do is to have him tested. I know this can seem difficult to do... he might take this as a question of infidelity or some attack on his past. I would hope hed be more open about this.
Understanding your (his) medical history/reality helps you understand your position. A large part of the population winds up carrying HPV, for ex, and has no problem with it... simply knowing you are a carrier is part of knowing your medical reality... and I think std screening for a person in a monogamous relationship/marriage should be at least a one time event, if not more (followups)...
Women most often carry the burden of std checkups... men are less likely to receive regular health screenings, let alone std screens. Also, men are more likely to be asymptomatic than women...
So... you don't know what you don't know until you know it, you know?
So... id ask him to have a screening done... not because you don't trust him or you are punishing him for the past... but because until a person has a screening done, they don't know reality.
I cannot give you percentages for how at risk you are. You've been with him for years, and not used protection, so one would assume that you've been "exposed" if he is a carrier... he also had "few" sexual partners before you, so there's less exposure... but it just can't be quantified by talking about it. You certainly are in a "better" position than many if his partners were few, they were less experienced, and you've both been monogamous. "on paper" you seem to be in a good place.
Id hope he would be open to testing as a part of completing his medical history and I hope you continue to be tested in the future. I've played down the "cheating" card because there are good reasons to be tested without bringing it up, but you know some do stray, and checking your sexual health is a part of your med history.
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