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Real Love · Jan 12, 2009, 09:42 AM

I was dating this guy for six months. He started acting weird towards me about a month and a 1/2 ago but still spending plenty of time with me. Last week he tells me he loves me but he can not be with me anymore because he thinks he wants to be with his sons mother. When I ask him if that's what he really wants he says no but that it would be better because his sons mother won't keep him from his son and he would be able to see his son when ever with out having problems with his son's mother. I told him how I felt for him that I loved him to and that he was really hurting me. Now I haven't been able to sleep or eat for 2 days because of this situation, the only thing that comes to mind is that I want him to hurt as much as I am or me hurting him as much or more then what he hurt me. What should I do?? I want to get over this!! :( I'm really going through it please help...

kctiger · Jan 12, 2009, 09:47 AM

Getting over a broken heart takes time... and time... and then some more time. I am sorry you have to go through this, but hey, it happens to all of us, and it isn't anything against you, so don't blame yourself.

If you go to the relationship forum and read the stickies at the top of the page, there is some wonderful advice to be taken. Let the emotions run their course, then get to work on yourself. Might be best to go without contacting him for awhile too.

plonak · Jan 12, 2009, 10:55 AM

Heartbreak is horrible, I know. But like KC said, you need to be patient and grit your teeth through it.. that's really the only way to heal from it.

Go out and try to have fun with your friends, meet new people, go to the gym, try a new hobby.. those are ways to distract yourself, but you also need to let yourself feel through those hard times, or else you won't ever get over it.. good luck

Wondergirl · Jan 12, 2009, 11:19 AM

I'm so sorry you are having to go through this! Do the No Contact thing and give him the freedom to be a dad to his sons. Keep yourself busy and involved with life and people. Don't let this wear on you and eat at your soul. You will end up being the only loser if you do. Join a book discussion group, volunteer at an animal shelter or library or hospital, go to a gym for workouts and some socializing, get into a new hobby like rug hooking or learning to play bridge or whatever. Become a regular on AskMeHelpDesk! Let us know how things are going. We're here for you, and you can be here for us!

Aphrodite77 · Jan 28, 2009, 08:38 PM

I think he's making a mistake... but it's his choice.. he did make another mistake by getting the girl pregnant in the first place.. he kind of has to face the consequences now... life works that way.. u can't get everything you want... Im really sorry for you it must be quite tragic.. but you can't affect his decisions.. it's up to his own morality..