[Stonewall13]

OK I have been dating this girl for 2 years. We met in high school and she is a year younger than me. I am 18 she is 17. Well we had such a great relationship, we never fought and also never did that whole broke up and got together and broke up again and back together thing, that wasn't us. We were always together and always calling each other. Life wa so great, well we of course fell madly in love and we were both very happy. Everybody thought that we were that couple that couple that were going to have that fairy tale story and stay together and get married. That was the plan for a long time, we knew that we wanted to be together, we even put a little forever and ever at the end of I love you's. We fell so in love that we decided to give up our virginity together. Through out our 2 years we had a very good sex life and every time we made love it was like our first time. I still got butterflies in my stomach when I knew we were going to be making love and that's after 2 years! I even butterflies at a party she was a little tipsy and said I love you you and I want to marry you. That made me jump in circles and I was so happy. We fell asleep in each others arms and woke up right beside each other and I gave her a kiss and she said she never wanted me to leave. It was the best moment in my life. My life took a turn for the worse when my father had an affair on my mom and left my family for another woman. I was so crushed that I turned to (Bailey is her name) Bailey and pourned all my love out to her. She was my rock that I knew would always be there for me and I became very dependent on her. I started to rely on her more and more, knowing that that was not me. I knew I didn't want to get dependent on her because it could hurt me later.(obvisioulsy I was hurt or I would not be asking a question here)
Well It was getting close to graduation. I was trying out colleges and wondering where I was going. Well that really upset her when I was thinking of going to a college far away and we won't see each other very much. That upset her and so she said that she was just going to have to get over it and be fine with where ever I go. Well I decided to stay close for college just for her because I truly thought that we were going to be together. I always worried about college and us being apart so I always told her it would be cool if she went to the same college as me or just someplace close and she was like you. I might of pushed her to go someplace close a little too much but I never told her she has to I just wanted her to go someplace close. Well Bailey started to act very stand offish. It was weird because she has never acted that way. She has always been real clingy and all over me but for some reason something was wrong and she was being very distant. I asked her what was wrong and she always said nothing is wrong.:confused: Well she went away on a vacation for 4 days and came back and I was because a huge come back for me and her. I thought I was going to go to her house and we were going to have a huge hug and kiss. Well she calls me and says I don't think you should come over and I was like why and she said family stuff. Well long story short we got in a huge fight over the phone. She told me she didn't feel the same way about me anymore. She said she loves me but she doesn't love me the way she used too. I was heart broken. She told me she doesn't know what she wants for her future and she doesn't know who she wants to be with. She said she doesn't see how people can be together through high school and college. Well I asked her if I can come over and she was like you just hurry. When I got there we had a big hug and kiss and decided to stay together and that she will try to get through this phase.
Well we stay together and things get better. We start to act normal and she always wanted to come over and hang out with me.When she got off work she would come right over and we would just have fun like the old times. I was so happy and I knew things were back to normal. Well she started to hangout with her best friend alot(who is single) and they went on a trip together to go visit her best friend sisters house. She rarely called me and I was wondering what the deal was. I thought that she was just having fun and just didn't have time to call me which was fine. Well she gets back and acts totally different. She is very distant and won't even let me make out with her. I ask her what's wrong and she says nothing but I keep nagging on the conversation and finally she says she still doesn't love me like she used to? I asked her if she ever feels like brief moments of happiness with me and little moments of love for me? She says No. I asked her does she feels like she will ever fall in love with me again? She says no I start to cry and said I can't do it anymore. Its not fair for me to have my whole heart in it and her have none. That was 3 days ago and I have hit rock bottom. She calls my best friend to ask how I am doing and stuff and he tells her that I am OK but not getting better which is true. I called her today and could not say a word I just sat there and wanted to hear her voice. She said I could talk to her and I told her it does not matter what I say to her it won't change anything. She got a little sad and said Sorry. She asked me how I was doing and I said not good, then there was a long pause. I told her I had to go and hung up.
I miss her so much and I want her back. My questions are...

Will she ever fall in love with me again?
How do I make her realize that we should be together?
How do you just fall out of love with someone with for no reason?
Why does she feel very friendly feelings toward me?

THANKS You FOR HELPING ME!

[funky1]

I can't really answers all your questions.Just 1... How do you just fall out of love with someone with for no reason?
I was in love with a guy... I just used to see him the best person on earth.. but now I don't know why I just don't feel like loving him anymore.It's complicated and you have a right to be heart broken but maybe your girlfriend is stressed with the thing too because I am really sad and want to be in love with this guy again because his whole life has changed since I entered it but I can't fall in love with him again.. :(.If I was you.. I'll try to live on... watch a movie... but don't forget about her and give her all your support but don't forget that your heart is not a play thing.I hope that I am a bit of help.bye 4 now.

[Canada_Sweety]

I miss her so much and I want her back. My questions are...

Will she ever fall in love with me again?
How do I make her realize that we should be together?
How do you just fall out of love with someone with for no reason?
Why does she feel very friendly feelings toward me?!

I hate saying this because I'm a romantic at heart. But it's less the likely to ever happen again. She sounds like she isn't coming back to you and it seems that you should move on. There is an antire thread on this site dedicated to why people fall out of love but I think that it just happens. As for her friendly feelings, maybe when she fell out of love, she develpoed stricktly friend-feelings for you. It's hard to accept and it hurts a lot but when someone you love moves on and falls out of love with you, you must move on.
Besides, if you truly love this girl, don't you want her happiness? Don't you want to do whatever you can to please her even at your own expense?
You've got my support and I'm here for you no matter what.