[kccb1413]

OK, I have seen questions like this a lot and its not like I am some horndog trying to hump my girlfreind every day of the week,

We have been dating for 2 1/2 years, I am 21 and she is 20, we dated for six months before we kissed and one year before we had sex,

To start, she WILL NOT kiss me with her tongue, she never has, she has never let me pleasure her, manually, and one time she let me, briefly, kiss her down there, she pleasured me orally once or twice but with little enthusiasm and rarely she gives me a hand, if you know what I mean, we have sex about 2-4 times a month, during a good month, she is not ugly, any man will say she is drop dead beautifull, but its hard to be sexually satisfied when there is little, or in most cases, no foreplay, there is no means for me to turn her on so the situation gets awkward a lot, when we do it, she LOVES it, and I know I am not lacking, I can give her 5 orgasims on a good night. It's the best sex ever

My questions is, WHY!! It drives me nuts, I have questioned maybe it had something to do with the fact that she has only one overy, the other got removed due to a cist, or am I just expecting too much? I know its said guys think they are not pleasured the right way because of what pornography has put into their mind, but is a little bit of foreplay wrong? Thank you to all who read, consider and respond to this.

[hannah_nicole]

Something seems to be jarring her up sexually perhaps a past trauma or sex may seem dirty to her. A lot of women harbour guilt about exploring themselves or letting others touch or pleasure them - it just somehow seems wrong. Or maybe she's just not interested in sex I don't know only she can answer as to why as it is her issue.

[ScottGem]

I think you need to see a counselor. There could be any number of reasons for this. Guilt at engaging in sex outside of marriage, low libido, physical discomforts, etc. A good therapist will eliminate or deal with the physical issues, or work on the psychological ones.

[Choux]

She may have been raised to be reserved and refined by her parents. Could that be it? Or, many women do not like the more slobbery aspect to sexual intercourse and foreplay. They prefer to see themselves as a movie camera would see them... a beautiful desired woman, not an eager participant.

I have to say that your report does not quite add up to me because if she gets five good orgasms a night, she is supersexual. Do you think she is faking it? I do, because that fits in with her other behavior.

You know, a fully orgasmic woman doesn't need a lot of different kinds of sexual techniques to orgasm, or even like the French love techniques, but I think your girlfriend is too young to be in this category.

Good Luck going forward, :)

[missingpieces]

Foreplay is not wrong! Foreplay is good for both of you so it sounds like you guys need to see a counselor for sure here.

[Fr_Chuck]

It sounds a lot like she has some mental block or issue from her earlier years. Counseling should be able to really help.

[smoothy]

Most women would be really upset if the man avoided all foreplay.

After all their engines aren't warmed up and ready for a moments notice like ours are.

She sounds really inexperienced if she is the one who is refusing it. And I hate to say this is to her detriment.

[kccb1413]

I would like to thank you all for your input.
Choux, I believe you hit it on the nail, the first part. Raised to be reserved and refined. I know she is not faking, bauce I can count when she orgasmns myself, if I ask her how many when we are done she says things like "why, so you can have a big ego?" and what not. But her father is a very religious* person, her parents have been separated for 7 years and he will not touch another woman, or even think of it. I believe she keeps it conservative out of respect for herself, and she would feel too much like a slut or something if she stepped out of the box. Get me? Well thank you all once aain for input, not going to see a counsler, sorry... I know me and my girl are going to be just fine for now