[userjan1]

Hi all,
I am seeing my sister developing into a problem child.She is aged 25 and is quite introvert. Though she is full of life and humor when she is with us but when she is facing the world she is quite meek. She doesn't want to initiate fights even when that fight is for her rights. She is a loner in her class. Very few talk to her or rather she lets very few talk to her. She emanates an aura of aloofness. People talk to her only when there is some work. She has very few friends.She suffers from low self confidence , probably because she has myopia with a high power. She feels low. Now the problem is that throughout the day she absorbs these feelings of anger and frustration and then she dumps all of these on my parents. My mother is now suffering from ill health because of all her problems. Even though my mother tries to tell her the solutions to her problems, she doesn't listen. She is becoming quite irritable and lonely.
I am posting the question here because I want my sister to get out of this depression. Please advice how to tackle her. She just can't break the ice with people and this leads to her frustrations/losses and irritations.She has adopted a negative attitude towards life.Save her.

[ChihuahuaMomma]

At 25, she can't be a problem child. She is not a child. If she is self-conscience about her vision, there are cures. Contact lenses, laser surgery, or cute glasses. Have you suggested these options to her?

It sounds like your sister needs a professional to dump her issues on, so that they can help her to resolve them. Have you considered suggesting that she talks to a therapist? You mentioned that she is school. College, I assume. There are counselors at a lot of colleges that the students can talk to privately without being judged.

[userjan1]

She is already using contact lenses. I guess she won't be talking toa professional because she doesn't understand her problems. I need a strategy that we can adopt to talk her out of this.