[Lawngnomez]

I think that you should start dating only when you feel ready. There is a time to grieve, but we must also move on at some time. Also if you have kids, you should make sure that they are doing all right

[mimi03]

Im so very sorry for your loss.
I don't think your friends mean anything but good by giving you such advice but if you aren't ready to date yet, don't!

I think they just want to see you in a place of love and happiness with someone again and that's what a good friend would want but you control the pace of this healing process and if you aren't ready to share yourself that's perfectly OK.
I hope that you do find some joy and comfort in other things so that you aren't consumed by the grief... I don't know how you feel but I hope you can hold on to these words:

"... joy and sorrow are inseparable. . . together they come and when one sits alone with you . . . remember that the other is asleep upon your bed."

*Best Wishes*