[xxSweetsxx]

I'm fifteen and last year I met this boy, he was 17 and I didn't like him at first but then when I finally did start to like him... I liked him A lot!! He was a playa and people kept telling me not to go out with him because he would just use me or he would cheat, but I don't know. Its been almost a year since I last talked to him and still... I miss him sooooooo much and I don't know why but I still want to be with him. I know I shouldn't and I know if I went out with him he would probably hurt me anyway but I can't help but think of all the things he told me. And right now I have a boyfriend but I keep thinking about this other boy and I don't know what to do. I don't even know if I will ever see him again and that's what hurts the most. Does anyone know what I should do or why I can't seem to get over him? :(

[talaniman]

Still remember that good playa rap, huh! Also remember that he has moved on to others when you remember him. Those good experiences are still their, and has stopped you from replacing them with other good feelings and experiences. Leave the past in the past, and work on what's going on now, as this may well turn obssesive, and that's not good. Can you tell us a little how the rlationship went, and how it ended? That would help us understand your situation better.

[xxSweetsxx]

When me and him were together he was always nice to me and everything but he would flirt a lot... I don't know if that's good or bad but yea. Well me and him were never boyfriend and girlfriend, we were just talking and we kissed a few times. It ended because I guess he got tired of waiting for me because we weren't going out and he tried to go out with me a thousand times but I never said yes because he was a player and I didn't want to get hurt but I ended up getting hurt anyway. Well he changed schools so I didn't talk to him for a month and then he texted me and told me he wanted to see me but he had a girlfriend so I told him no and then I never heard from him again after that. He still has my number because a month ago he texted me one of those little chain letters through a text message so at least he has my number but yea I just don't know why its so hard to get over him and let go of the past, I miss him so much!

[talaniman]

For someone so heart broken, you have done an outstanding job of resisting his advances, and protecting yourself. That's great, and speaks very highly of your and yourself esteem. I think he is on your mind, because you still think of, "what if."... in the back of your mind, but it would help a lot, if you cut the contact, and had a chance to get over him a bit. Hey if it makes any difference, many of us have the same problem, of someone we are attracted to, but for whatever reason, are unavailable to us, keeps popping in our head, and thoughts, like they live there. Best I can tell you is, the heart may want them, but the brain says no. Listen to your brain. The way, I suspect, you have been. Good Luck.