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ryry · Feb 16, 2008, 06:21 PM

Serious love problem here!!!:eek:
Well I not its not very trustful 2 find sum1 online... but I did... and I don't usually like anyone I meet online... but I found this 1 guy and I actually am in love with him! I mean I have been in love with a girl before and it was hard 2 deal with... but this I even worse:S:S the thing is that I live in devon and he lives in wales... we are both secretly bi.he also says he loves me and he used 2 say it like he meant it but resently it feels like he's only saying it 2 keep me happy... :( what do I do? Even if we pass this obstical I'm stilll going 2 want him more and more!! We have arranged 2 meet around the summer time... I no this is dificult 2 answer... but someone please please answer me!! I reli need help because I cry every night of my life because I'm afaid I'm going 2 loose him.:confused:

Please anyone get back to me and help me!!
Love ry x

ISneezeFunny · Feb 16, 2008, 06:24 PM

1. How old are you? You seem real real young.

2. this guy lives in whales. You sure he really lives in whales? You sure he's even a guy?

3.. . meet up in the summertime... again. How old are you? You should Google "online predators"

imation · Feb 17, 2008, 05:20 AM

I so agree with ISneezeFunny.
You know nothing about him really, he could be your next door neighbour who is 70 years old and bored... it could even be some punk kid at your school playing a joke on you, who knows.
I suggest you DO Google online predators, it might open your eyes as to the posibilities of what may be going on

ryry · Feb 17, 2008, 06:35 AM

Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny

1. how old are you? you seem real real young.

2. this guy lives in whales. you sure he really lives in whales? you sure he's even a guy?

3. ...meet up in the summertime...again. how old are you? you should google "online predators"

Thanyou for answering me... I am 17... I am surtain he lives in wales as I have sent valitines card to him and he has goten it... I no who and what he looks like as I have seen him on webcam.

ISneezeFunny · Feb 17, 2008, 07:32 AM

The wonderful thing about the internet is that you are never sure... who anyone ever is. This is also the downfall of the internet.

For example... take my ex girlfriend's best friend.

My ex... is 5'2"...extremely cute...slender body. Her best friend...5'7"... a bit on the heavy side... and she was never really considered "attractive" although she has a heart of gold.

The best friend met this guy online and started chatting with him.. and when the guy wanted pictures, the best friend sent pictures of my ex. When the guy wanted webcam... the best friend asked the ex to sub in for her.

How long have you two been talking? Better yet, how long did you two talk before the word "love" came into play? How old is the guy?

It seems like we're grilling you, but reality is... it's better to be safe than sorry.

ryry · Feb 17, 2008, 07:59 AM

Yeah I understand that... internet can always find away of interupting no matter how perfect things may seem. We have been talking for about 1/2 a year now... love came into it around christmas time I think... the guy is also 17.
Am I just being paranoid do you think?

talaniman · Feb 17, 2008, 08:58 AM

I question those that think they are in love after a few months and I think that holds even more for internet pals, as they haven't even met in person yet. Anyone can assume intense feeling are love and if your lonely the feeling is magnified. So what does your life look like without this internet?? I think it wise if you take every precaution for yourself, because the fact is, this is an unknown stranger.

ryry · Feb 17, 2008, 10:16 AM

Thank you for your opinion... and I know exactly where you are comeing from... its just some things are more meaningful than black and white... I know him and all about him and he also knows all about me... I believe that I can make this work is I just put my mind to it... but he needs 2 help me... how do I tell him 2 do so?

talaniman · Feb 17, 2008, 10:38 AM

If their feelings are the same you don't have to. They will be more than willing. Just be honest in expressing your feelings, but be cautious, as they are STRANGERS, and there is NO WAY, you know everything about someone you have never met!! Don't go there. That's a fact. Just say you like what you do know, as there is much more to learn, that cannot be done long distance. Your already getting carried away by false assumptions. That's why caution is my best advice.

ryry · Feb 17, 2008, 10:43 AM

Okey... so if I act like normal and just see how things go then maybe I won't be trying 2 focus on the down sides of things... I understand exactly where you are coming from... its helped me a lot all of you... thankyou... I will let you know how things go :)

ISneezeFunny · Feb 17, 2008, 11:52 AM

To be honest with you, I've been with my (now ex) for 3 years. During those 3 years, we spent the first year dating... then we lived together for the next 2 years.. . I STILL didn't know everything about her. However... following tal's advice, just relax about it... don't freak out, don't be paranoid.