[Singy]

My man broke up with me 8 months ago. Due to commitment issues. He said he loved me but did not want to commit... and said it was not fair on me... We had some contacts until February. He was dating another. When he found out about me finding out his girlfriend, (his girlfriend phoned a friend of mine and made sure I found out by the way, very very very awful) he dumped her. Apparently he got angry with her trying to reach me. He asked me out to dinner in February, and he was in contact almost everyday on msn. Nothing happened. We were very respectful to each other. Then I said on msn I was not ready for a friendship, he said he wanted to talk with me about this... We never did. I switched him off for about 2 months and when I came back on msn, we started chatting again. One day out of the blue he asked me out with his mom and him onhis moms birthday. I accepted it and had dinner with them. His mom wants us to get married. She is crazy about me. And honestly I like her too. Anyway, then a week after that we went out to dinner. I asked him :))) And at the end of dinner he asked me to go out again the next week. That was last week. He was just chatty on msn but did not ask me out..
He is away now and will not come back for 5 days. Meanwhile I found out from his cousins wife that he met a girl 2 - 3 months ago, in a foreign country, and was dating her. I asked his cousin if he was involved with anyone he said no...
Another friend tellls me he is just temporarly with her and means nothing.

Excuses excuses... I am aware that men woud see girls but ı don't know how to react. I am not angry just confused. I am still in love with him. And we have never ever lost respect for each other, we have always been nice. We never asked wuestions about our personal lives etc.

I am willing to take him back even without marriage, but I can't say that obviously. What can I do and please don't tell me to move on. I am trying to do that too. I am not all upset, in fact I am positive now. If he comes back great if he does not, then OK. I will be fine. I can llive without him but I just don't want to.

Please help me find a way to talk to him - I don't want to be the one to start the conversation or be one of those "we need to talk" girls. I simply won't.

The idea is for us to get back together :) what is the advice you could give?

[Canada_Sweety]

Sounds like you're in a pickle and not ready to move on. Understandable, we've all been there. Now, getting a man back can be incredibly challenging. But where there is a will, there is a way.:) Just ask him where you guys are in the whole "getting back together thing". Either that or you could always ask him to be your boyfriend again. But try not to seem clingy or obsessive. I wish you the best and hope it works out.