[summerw1nd]

The other day my friend was asking me what qualities/characteristics I find endearing about someone that I'm currently dating. I couldn't come up with an answer, does that mean that I don't really like him?

[ISneezeFunny]

Not necessarily. A person's a bit more complicated than inanimate things so it's a bit hard to come up with reasons we like that person. Some things can be:

Attractive
Sense of humor
Intelligence
They're "nice"
Compatibility
etc.

Of course, if you look at these things and you think, he's NOT any of those things... then you might have to take a step back and think, why DO I like that person?

[JBeaucaire]

I agree, as a creature you are created with a natural desire to be with someone. It's genetic. You want a partner. But girls often feel "empty" if they don't have a special "guy" and that can lead them to ignore all the things dating is there to prove... whether they are worth the effort.

Since you are the "catch" and not the "catcher", make sure your guy is being given frequent and consistent opportunities to pursue you, and that should continue right up to the marriage proposal and beyond. This should be fun for both of you.

If you can't name the traits you like in him, then banish him from your mind and answer the question: "What are the traits I demand in a lifemate?"

Be brutally honest and compare that list to your guy. You don't need a reason to like him, you were created to like people. You need a reason to keep him that close to you, ultimately the closest of all. You need a LOT of reasons to do that.

There's nothing wrong with liking, even loving people instinctively. There's EVERYTHING wrong with not testing out their character if you are going to keep them that close long-term. They need to earn that spot. And you need to earn that spot with them as well.

[Fr_Chuck]

I had always looked for someone with loads of money, but ended up falling in love with someone other than that.

But seriously, often we don't know why, it just seems right, there are things we do look for but often it is more subconscience than rational.

[Simple Asian]

you don't need a reason to like them you just like them... well at least that what I think

pplz in the world like pplz and date pplz so they can find out the right girl/guy for them...

and in the end they always end up with that one person...

and there are 6 billions pplz out there and the one you looking for is only one.. so keep looking and wiilling to wait and you will find it ^^ figure speech lol