[NCDad]

Please read my Oct 4 post "Parental Alienation". I am looking for anyone out there who has experienced this and can share with me how you were able to put your life back together and move on. The heartache is killing me...

[N0help4u]

It is hard when a parent turns their kids on the other parent. It is not right to the kids at all.
Hopefully you had enough time with them that they know you aren't the evil one she made you out to be and one day they will see she is the one with the problem.
All I can think of is every chance you do get to talk to them or be with them let them see you are nothing like she says and reassure them that you love them and would spend more time with them if she would let you. In the meantime keep going to family court for visitations and even, if you can, prove she has mental problems that interfere with her being a good mother. Maybe you could try buying them little presents and include a card telling them that they mean the world to you.
I wish my ex had wanted to be there for his kids, it kills me to see a mother that turns a caring dad away from his kids.

[NCDad]

Thanks for the advice. I am trying to do just that. My two daughters just had birthdays and I sent them cards, a small gift and told them how much I loved them. Unfortunately the kids have made it clear they don't want me in their lives. Because of their age and the conflict that it was causing, I told them I would not force them to see me against their will. I have left it up to them. The crazy thing is that a year ago, I moved into a house in the same neighborhood and they still refuse to have anything to do with me. I thought about moving, but I decided to stay because when they grow up, I want them to look back and realize that I only lived a few hundred yards away from them and they could have seen me if they wanted to. Yet, they were the ones who refused to have anything to do with me. They will never be able to say that I abandoned them.