[confused75]

Been flatting with a guy 4 years older than me coming up to a year now, we went to the same psychic and he claims this psychic got him right 100 % and he had great respect for her however I went to see the same psychic 2 weeks later and she told me he had feelings for me so I approached him and told him I had the same feelings, it totally backfired... he told me Sorry I don't feel the same way. So was the psychic wrong or does he really have feelings for me and he's in denial? She's a really good psychic and all my friends have used her for years? How can she get him right for everything else yet be off about his feelings?

So I went overseas for work suppose to be for 4 months but instead quit my job and was back in 10 days... it took me a while to settle back in but we haven't really talked much. What I did notice though was that in the 10 days I was away he totally went to the pack, drank heaps... his routine was totally out the door and he was living on takeaway's I was saddened.

Anyway since I've been back he never goes out, he would rather chill at home with me , I feel he's constantly watching me trying to figure out what's on my mind, we get on like a house on fire although at times I find him arrogant... his parents absolutely love me (although they are divorced) and my dad loves him too yet we've never slept together. Both his parents have asked him what he thinks of me and his father has told others that I'm the best thing that has ever happened to him - pity it hasn't sunk in with him yet.

However I'm really homesick and I miss my family and I'm thinking of moving home which is in another country but only a 2 and a half hour flight, however every time I talk about going home it's like he doesn't really want to listen or he'll send me an email about some furniture sale - why on earth would I want to buy furniture if I'm planning on moving home to another country? Is that his way of telling me he doesn't want me to go?

I know I'll miss him, but I feel I have to go to make him realise - I love him heaps and somehow I think that he'll follow me to my country. He acts like he doesn't care yet every time I catch up with my ex-boyfriend for lunch or dinner he's always a wanker to me the next day... like he's upset...

I don't really want to lose him but then again I don't really want to wait around for years waiting for him to make some sort of move, my friends reckon that he will really miss me too and I'll be hurting him a lot if I go... so I'm really at a lost as to what to do.

[Sad Soul]

You are doing the right thing by moving. You have already told him flat out that you care, yet he hasn't.

See, you are focusing on clues and little theories rather than the fact. The fact is that he told you he doesn't feel the same way. He may truly miss you and love being with you, and may even love you more than a friend, but it's not the amount of love you want or need.

The man you will be with will be your equal in this regard. So, move away. You're not ruining your life since you were honest with him. AND if he does love you to the extent that he wants to be yours, you moving away will help him realize this even more.

See? You have nothing to lose!

[confused75]

Thank you sad soul, thanks for giving a wondering soul some direction - I really appreciate it

[confused75]

Loiii