Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help !
Ask
    kitty1234's Avatar
    kitty1234 Posts: 4, Reputation: 1
    New Member
    		  
    #1

    Aug 16, 2007, 01:30 PM
    How can I make my boyfriend be the 1st taking iniciative
    Hi, I am a frustrated girl because my boyfriend never takes iniciative concerning sex - it is always me - if we have sex it is because me, he does not touch my body, not lick me, I do many things to him, I kiss his body, I do oral sex to him even I have swallow the sperms to make him turn on more but he never takes the iniciative for having sex, what can I do?
    CaptainRich's Avatar
    CaptainRich Posts: 4,492, Reputation: 537
    Cars & Trucks Expert
    		  
    #2

    Aug 16, 2007, 01:43 PM
    How old are you?
    Are you as open with him as you are with us?
    kitty1234's Avatar
    kitty1234 Posts: 4, Reputation: 1
    New Member
    		  
    #3

    Aug 17, 2007, 12:56 AM
    Yes - I am really open and I have told him that I am frustrated that he never takes iniciative that he is so pasive on bed - I am 34 years old.
    CaptainRich's Avatar
    CaptainRich Posts: 4,492, Reputation: 537
    Cars & Trucks Expert
    		  
    #4

    Aug 17, 2007, 04:53 AM
    Just making sure... we often get very young people seeking advise...

    So, what attracted you to him? Is he subject to a lot of excessive stress lately?
    I don't know. You sound very passionate and engaging. Maybe you need someone more compatible... more outgoing and excitable...
    kitty1234's Avatar
    kitty1234 Posts: 4, Reputation: 1
    New Member
    		  
    #5

    Aug 17, 2007, 06:37 AM
    Hi CaptainRich - you are right I am so passionate and a latin girl and my boyfriend is an scandinavian man, do you think that the age sometimes be a issue, he is soon 39 years old. Believe me a I give all the pleasure that a man wants from a woman but he nevers look for me to start to have sex. I dress sexy tempting him - I send dirty notes to tease him - I do kinky things to make him turn on and he likes all this and he really enjoy all what I do to him but he never comes up with something or he never starts the game:(
    talaniman's Avatar
    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
    Expert
    		  
    #6

    Aug 17, 2007, 07:04 AM
    How long have you been together? Has he always been this way?
    CaptainRich's Avatar
    CaptainRich Posts: 4,492, Reputation: 537
    Cars & Trucks Expert
    		  
    #7

    Aug 17, 2007, 07:26 AM
    I don't think your age difference is a significant factor.
    It's more likely he was raised conservatively.
    Have you met any of his family?
    Try role reversal: taunt him by trying to act as passive as him with engaging in sexual activity and see how or if he reacts. "Do you want this? Show me how you want this."
    He may eventually "break out" of being how he is, but then maybe not.
    Either way, only time will tell.
    vette06's Avatar
    vette06 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
    New Member
    		  
    #8

    Nov 2, 2007, 09:29 PM
    Maybe he does not like sex too much, or have ever think he has another woman, I hope not but in my case I would really love a woman that does the thing you do , I don't understand why some guys are so cold I am 30 and love sex everyday good luck...
Not your question? Ask your question View similar questions
 

Question Tools Search this Question
Search this Question:

Advanced Search

Add your answer here.


Check out some similar questions!

Make my boyfriend understand [ 7 Answers ]

Hello Im from India. I and my boyfriend are in relationship for the past 3 years. I love him a lot. I can't live without him. I wanted to marry him this year and start family. But due to our custom in the community he wanted me to go to UK for education with him and later marry. I had so much...

Should the boyfriend always make the first move? [ 2 Answers ]

Ok here's my question... Are the boyfriends supposed to always be the ones to put the first moves on every time they fool around with their girlfriend? Or can it be from both of them? It seems like she always wants me to put the first moves on her but I never know when the right time is or if...

Boyfriend does not make an effort to meet me [ 2 Answers ]

Hi, my boyfriend says he loves me but he does not make an effort to meet me just me and him... his best mate says he is just not good with girls, but i don't know what to think. I keep on thinking about ending it with him, but i think i would regret it after cos i do really like him!!:( can people...

How do I make him stop taking advantage [ 7 Answers ]

I have been with the same guy for 7 years. I know that he is not using me for sex because our sex life is not that active. I do think/know he takes advantage of my kindness and of me finanically. How do I stop this from happening. I am a nice person by nature and would do almost anything to make...

My boyfriend stopped taking his meds... again [ 8 Answers ]

Hi there... I am new to this forum, to any forum for that matter... But, I need to get some outside advice on this one My boyfriend has been taking citalopram pretty much since I met him a year and a half ago. About 4 months ago, he stopped taking his pill and was fine for a week or so, then got...

View more questions Search