Hi, I am a frustrated girl because my boyfriend never takes iniciative concerning sex - it is always me - if we have sex it is because me, he does not touch my body, not lick me, I do many things to him, I kiss his body, I do oral sex to him even I have swallow the sperms to make him turn on more but he never takes the iniciative for having sex, what can I do?

How old are you?
Are you as open with him as you are with us?

Yes - I am really open and I have told him that I am frustrated that he never takes iniciative that he is so pasive on bed - I am 34 years old.

Just making sure... we often get very young people seeking advise...

So, what attracted you to him? Is he subject to a lot of excessive stress lately?
I don't know. You sound very passionate and engaging. Maybe you need someone more compatible... more outgoing and excitable...

Hi CaptainRich - you are right I am so passionate and a latin girl and my boyfriend is an scandinavian man, do you think that the age sometimes be a issue, he is soon 39 years old. Believe me a I give all the pleasure that a man wants from a woman but he nevers look for me to start to have sex. I dress sexy tempting him - I send dirty notes to tease him - I do kinky things to make him turn on and he likes all this and he really enjoy all what I do to him but he never comes up with something or he never starts the game:(

How long have you been together? Has he always been this way?

I don't think your age difference is a significant factor.
It's more likely he was raised conservatively.
Have you met any of his family?
Try role reversal: taunt him by trying to act as passive as him with engaging in sexual activity and see how or if he reacts. "Do you want this? Show me how you want this."
He may eventually "break out" of being how he is, but then maybe not.
Either way, only time will tell.

Maybe he does not like sex too much, or have ever think he has another woman, I hope not but in my case I would really love a woman that does the thing you do , I don't understand why some guys are so cold I am 30 and love sex everyday good luck...