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girl999 · Jul 5, 2007, 03:51 AM

I need some advice on this one. My boyfriend and I have been going out for over a year now. I don't know if I'm too sensitive, but every time we go out he seems too stare at other girls. When I confronted him about it, he says that he likes too look at people and the way they do things and that its not like he wants them. How will I know if he is not seeing anyone behind my back. I asked him one day if he calls other girls when I'm not around, he said that how can he do that when I'm checking his phone statements every month and that he doesn't do it. Am I just too jealous? What do you guys think I should do?

JoeCanada76 · Jul 5, 2007, 03:59 AM

Yes, I think that your looking way into things then you should be. Has he given you any reason to doubt him? As far as looking at other people, who is he with? He is with you, right. You need to stop worrying.

As far as accusing him of calling other girls? Do you think this is good in a relationship? Sounds like your insecure. Please try to just enjoy the time you have with your boyfriend. He is with you and by the sounds of it has not given you any reason to doubt it, has he?

Hope I have helped.

Joe

tickle · Jul 5, 2007, 04:00 AM

I think you should just enjoy this relationship with your SO, don't become paranoid or you are going to drive him away.

A coconut · Jul 5, 2007, 04:09 AM

By the way, you are not too jealous, my wife is, and I'm still with her, so, if he loves you, he'll accept you just the way you are.

Jiser · Jul 5, 2007, 04:19 AM

As said above, he's with you not anyone else. Attractive people can make our eyes turn, does not mean we want to jump in bed with them unless you're a raging hormonal man like me. :) lol!

Try to deal with your insecurity as it can destroy relationships. All the best.

aries_star · Jul 5, 2007, 04:25 AM

If see my boyfriend looking at other girls I just joke around with him and say wow she's fit. That way he thinks you're the best, and he's more than likely to stop looking at her and look at you. But let him know that it is different and not acceptable if he chats other up or cheats on you. Looking is just normal.
Don't be so untrusting it's just going to put pressure on your relationship. Just have fun!
Hope this helps

girl999 · Jul 5, 2007, 05:32 AM

Thanks for your advice guys, but there's just one more thing. The one time my b/f innvited me with him to his friend's wedding. Before the wedding she asked him if her husband to be friends could sleep over at his house, he said that it was fine. It was a girl with her b/f.. So, the next day we went to the wedding and he kept on staring at this girl and she back at him. When we ate he put his food on his lap and turned his chair, just to look at her at the other table. So after a while she and b/f came sitting with us and it was just him and this girl talking, so she said she better move back to their table before the other guys come back to sit on their cahirs. And he said no, they should sit with us, the other guys wouldn't mind. Was that flirtatious. Am I again being too jealous?

Krs · Jul 5, 2007, 05:38 AM

He may have been staring and he may have not! Wasn't there to see the scene, however from your previous post you seem to put everything way above, which in fact it was prob all inoncent.

Guys like confident girls - always remember that!

Why are you so insecure?

girl999 · Jul 5, 2007, 05:49 AM

I don't know. I think its bcoz we started real badly. At our first date he just talked about his ex he was about to marry and she refused. He was absolutely crazy about her. When we were together for 3 months he asked her to bring his stuff like photos of them 2 and a painting he gave her, for him. She stays 4 hours from where he is staying. So she aked him if she could stay over at his house for a week. Her aunt also lives in the same town as him, but she didn't want to stay with her, because they didn't get along good. He said that she could stay at his house and spring cleaned his house like never before. Eventually she dropped him and he was very disappointed. How will I know if he's really over her?? Its been over a year now.

Krs · Jul 5, 2007, 05:53 AM

Broken hearts take a while to re attach itself together.

I mean he was going to marry must have meant that they were together a while.

But that's the past... don't think about the past.
He is now with you, think of the present and future

talaniman · Jul 6, 2007, 04:23 PM

Get over your jealousy and insecurity, before it ruins this relationship.

s_cianci · Jul 6, 2007, 05:10 PM

I think you have a jealousy problem. Just because he looks at other people doesn't mean he's seeing anyone else. IF you don't curb your insecurities soon you will lose him.

nicespringgirl · Jul 6, 2007, 05:31 PM

Hun, It's okay. When a guy looks at a girl, that only means the girl is attractive, he might be intimidated to talk to her, that is why he is just LOOKING at them. If he looks and talks to them and flirt with them.. then u should be aware of!! I don't think you are TOO jealous, honestly all girls do that, we will eventually get over with it. Good Luck
P.S.I promise you, it's okay I know guys look at me but they don't dare to date me.:P