[My Heart Hurts]

My live in boyfriend moved out on 10/5/07. I asked him to. I needed space. Just to detach myself from his ex. She was so mean to him. Well a week later he tells me him and his ex are going to give it another shot. They spent a lot of time together over the weekend and the kids loved it. Now I am sitting here alone. I just wanted space for a moment not a lifetime. I was so blind sided by this my heart hurts really bad. Their divorce is final in December07 don't know if they are going through with it. But, he continues to sleep with me and her. He tells me he loves me and we will be together again in 13 years when he is not so responsible for his kids well being! Need Advice. This is making me nuts! My heart and head are telling me different things. My heart keeps telling me to sleep with him he will come back to you. My head run fast and far from him if he wanted to be with you he would be. Advice pretty please! Or people who been in similar situations how did you deal with this.

[s_cianci]

Holy livin' crap! You're really going to waste 13 years of your life waiting for something that's never going to happen? You're not being very true to yourself at all! Surely you had to know that, with him still being married, at least on paper and with children involved that such a relationship would be touch-and-go from the start. No doubt your wanting a "break" was the perfect excuse for him to end his little tryst with you. Maybe he's going back to his not-yet-ex out of loneliness, guilt or a genuine desire to try and reconcile ; it's hard to know for sure. But understand that, as his legal spouse she has a prior claim to all of his affections. And now he's making you a promise of something 13 years down the road? As far as family dynamics go, 13 years is a lifetime. Literally anything can and will happen in that time. Frankly I think you need to count your blessings that he's gone and let this be a learning experience for you. Get out there and find yourself a man who'll be true to you and make you his #1 priority. You won't get that from someone who's married and/or separated, especially if he has kids.