Originally Posted by
Bestsinger101
I actually approached my DR who said I seemed fine and didn't think I needed councilling!
With all due respect to your doctor, he/she may not be the best judge of whether you would benefit from counselling. If you still feel that these major, major losses of your young life are unresolved and ungrieved, you could probably profit from it. Especially since you were so very young when your father died. There's no way an eight year old child could have the maturity and perspective to process that kind of loss without some guidance and compassionate help. Then the loss of your sister and your partner coming in quick succession would have just added to the heavy load you were already carrying. It sounds like your mother was pretty much dysfunctional so you picked up the slack, which is admirable, but it surely left a lot of your own inner feelings of loss unresolved.
I would say try to find a counsellor you can trust and feel some connection with and try it for at least six months. I think you'll be surprised how much it can help just to be listened to with understanding, kindness and compassion.