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harriejansen · Sep 16, 2009, 08:09 AM

Yep, will be going away for 2 weeks again this weekend, that might help. I guess her refusal to even talk to me must mean she has another. Knowing for sure would make it easier.

amicon · Sep 16, 2009, 08:35 AM

Whether she is with somebody else is speculation and irrelevant.What you know for a fact is that she doesn't want any contact.So you have to take it from there,and start building yourself up again.

talaniman · Sep 16, 2009, 08:37 AM

But its not your business what she does. Why do you need her having other interests, to make your moving on easier? That's something that's YOUR decision, no matter what she is doing.

harriejansen · Sep 16, 2009, 08:47 AM

I think it is because, during our previous break which lasted 2 months, she was even more clear in not wanting anything to do with me, but came back... My mind is against my (and yours!) better judgement playing that game with me still, that she'll be back and we'll make it the third time around... that's why I almost hope she is with somebody else... does that make sense?

harriejansen · Sep 21, 2009, 07:52 AM

Ok friends, I got my distraction... my ex wife is trying to change the schedule of our kids, in stead of 2 weeks on, 2 weeks off, changing every week. That would mean for me to drive 2000 km a month in stead of 1000... Anyway, keeps my mind off the ex girlfriend to be busy with this new issue. Feeling a lot better.

amicon · Sep 21, 2009, 08:55 AM

Hey good you re feeling better only way to go-thats a lot of driving ; keep the music going!

winding200 · Sep 22, 2009, 06:41 AM

You are in emotional roller coaster between child custody and break up in a foreign country. You will need strong nerve. As you know, you will be getting better as time goes by. I always stick with the old cliché, everything happens for purpose, and everything has cost. You will get paid well since you have tried hard. Take care yourself!

When I was a little girl, I thought grown ups do not have issues just like they do not have to do their homework. Ha ha. What an innocent misunderstanding. Being a cool grown up is not that easy. That's why our life is interesting. Oh, well.

harriejansen · Sep 24, 2009, 11:00 AM

Friends, I am doing OK, much much better then when I first came here. Still thinking a lot of her though, also waking up at night with her in my head etc.

Knowing my story, do you guys think I ever hear from her again? Even just to check up? Just wondering what you think.

talaniman · Sep 24, 2009, 11:27 AM

NO! Because if your both doing your own things you'll be to busy living, except for the occasional thoughts.

Maybe you end up as friends for life, maybe you won't. Maybe you fall for the next hot potato you meet, or she does. You never know so be in a place where you can deal with whatever happens in an adult, clear headed way.

amicon · Sep 24, 2009, 11:48 AM

I think you ve got a touch of what I d call relationship hangover-nobody knows what may happen in the future-which is probably a blessing in disguise?

harriejansen · Sep 26, 2009, 10:17 AM

I am having a very nostalgic day today, it still feels so weird that the last time we saw each other, June 8th!! We were totally all over each other and then never spoke again... pfffff... c'est la vie...

amicon · Sep 26, 2009, 10:31 AM

Nostalgia s OK but don't get stuck there.que sera sera -and life still goes on.

harriejansen · Sep 26, 2009, 10:39 AM

It is a rainy day here, that is not very often the case... how are you doing! See that you are very active on the board!

amicon · Sep 26, 2009, 10:51 AM

I'm good thanks. It's a great board and it s helped me get back on my feet very quickly. Trying to help others a great way to regain your selfrespect! :-) how are your kids?

harriejansen · Sep 26, 2009, 10:59 AM

Kids are great, running around with friends. I am quite good also, lots of mountainbiking and gym, lost 5 kilos, am strong, look like an adolescent myself! But... as you know, I have that nagging issue in the back (and front) of my head!

amicon · Sep 26, 2009, 11:09 AM

Yup I get that but what can you do? Me being an impatient person I just let it go when I ve tried my best.
And I believe you did try but it wasn't happening and that's sad but there you are.
Sometimes we have to chalk things up to good/bad memories and move on Harrie. :-( x

harriejansen · Sep 30, 2009, 04:13 AM

Friends, I still have her in my head, can't help looking indirectly at her Facebook (I look at a page of a girlfriend of hers where she occasionaly writes on) I know that is bad but... I'd like sooooo much to be able to talk to her but we know what happened when I tried... sigh... it just does not feel "over" yet for me! I'll keep up the no contact... but I do feel that as time goes by she flies away...

talaniman · Sep 30, 2009, 04:36 AM

Stop stalking her on Facebook! That's not No Contact, its unnecessary torture.

amicon · Sep 30, 2009, 07:44 AM

Every time you check out FB you take a mega step in the wrong direction.
You know the drill find the strength to stick to it.

harriejansen · Sep 30, 2009, 10:33 AM

Thanks, I know I shouldn't, I feel fine though, funcioning normal again, so it is not that I am an emotional wreck anymore, just curious about her, thinking about her yes. I'll try to get a grip on that, I think it will fade in time, it is already happening.