[bella99]

The holidays are always a bit more tough but I think being single for the holidays is more fun - more holiday parties! Hahhaha. Have a great one!

[jmw0713]

More holiday parties and more money to spend on other things. Plus, there is less to stress out about, because you don't have to shop for the "perfect" gift.

Bring on the eggnog.

[bella99]

So, I have the choice of going to a new years eve party with all of my friends, but my exbf and his new girlfriend will be there. I'm still on the fence about it. But last night I actually went out to dinner with them (and some other friends). His girlfriend, Kate, and I had never really been introduced so I took it upon myself to introduce myself and strike up conversation. Wanted to see if I could stomach hanging out with them for NYE. She was really nice to me, and he was pretty nice to me as well. He treated me like old times when he wasn't a jerk. Sucks that she's so nice (if you know what I mean). But at least they didn't try to make me feel weird, so maybe down the line we can all be friends. We have so many friends in common, that if they stay together we need to be friends or it will just always be awkward.

Still don't know about the party though. I'll know every person there - and I kind of want to go do something where I won't know everyone. So I might go up to Brooklyn. Kind of feel like starting the New Year out fresh with different people. My old roommate lives up there so might go.

So it was nice that everythign was OK between each of us, but you know there is still that faint pang of jealousy.

Happy New Year everyone - time for a fresh start.

[amicon]

Happy New Year my dear!
And I'd go for the Brooklyn option-meet new people.
All the best.x

[paxe]

Your state is really small. Go to Brooklyn, meet new people it's usually much fun also.

[bella99]

So just thought I'd provide an update on my situation. As of last night, I have been single for a year now. Honestly, I've been in a great mood recently. Last night for a little bit I did feel a little upset over how terrible last year was, and how I wish I would have handled it differently. I was mad at my ex last for ruining a good portion of my year.

He actually texted me last week for the first time in a year to see if I wanted to go out - I just responded - I won't be home. I think we could probably be friends in the coming months but I really just would like to continue to do my own thing and leave him alone.

Lots of guys are floating around for dates this past month or two, so it's nice to have things normal, fun, and flirty. I'm looking forward to having a great summer with no drama, and no emotions similar to last year :)

Took me a long time to get over that guy, haven't talked to him or seen him since mid-december, and I really feel great. Everything happens for a reason. Learned a lot about myself this year.

[vanheart]

Good for you.

Same here, going on a year for me.

[paxe]

That's nice! I almost got into a year being single, I guess you guys beat me :(.

[bella99]

Unfortunately - my mom passed away last week - I posted it under bereavement but some of you guys on this thread have been so helpful with break ups - figured id let you know. If u have ever experienced losing a parent - take a look at my thread there, and let me know what you think. This is so rough - pretty different from how I felt when my ex and I broke up though - I was more immediately sad then - right now I guess it hasn't hit me how this will impact me for the rest of my life just yet. :-(

[vanheart]

Im sorry.
Yeah I know what its like. And a brother that died too.
Don't think we are ever truly prepared.

My best,
Van