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kctiger · Sep 2, 2009, 08:13 AM

Happy early Birthday!! I will be sure to kick a few back for you! Enjoy!! As a matter of fact, I will be happy to attend this party and I promise a good time all around! ;)

paxe · Sep 2, 2009, 08:32 AM

NO NO NO and NO! Why in the world would you invite him to your birthday? This is the perfect time to invite guys that you don't really know to your Birthday so that you get to know them better. You'll get a surprise after that.

bella99 · Sep 2, 2009, 09:13 AM

No I don't really want him to be there - I just wish none of this had happened so that he could be there - no what I mean? I'm not inviting him out or anything - believe me it wouldn't make my night fun.

Oh well - got to move on.

paxe · Sep 2, 2009, 11:06 AM

Yep moving on is the thing to do. Look we all wish that things happened in a different way, but in the end of the day, what is important is yourself and being happy. You have a chance to not see him, that's more than me. I'm still obliged to see my ex with mutual friends.

bella99 · Sep 2, 2009, 12:03 PM

Yea I end up running into him with mutual friends as well - like last Thursday but it went OK. I'm definitely not going to invite him out - I actually already sent out the invite, and he wasn't on it :)

I think I will run into him less frequently now actually because my best friend moved to Ireland last weekend and she was the one that kept inviting him out. Stinks she had to move, but I won't see him much either so tahts nice.

I definitely feel much better than I ever did back from April - July. The no-contact thing is definitely very helpful.

Jake2008 · Sep 2, 2009, 02:30 PM

Happy Birthday Bella,

This will be something to look at as a very, extra special day for you. From this point on, it's all good. You're getting stronger every day, you're getting through all this, and as hard as it is from time to time, those hard days are now becoming moments, and it won't put a dent in your day, or your life.

Good for you, keep up the good work!! :)

vanheart · Sep 2, 2009, 06:51 PM

Same here. Happy Birthday.
Have a great party. Enjoy those friends.

Let this day remind you of all of the amazing and important things in your life. Mostly you.

That's why we celebrate. To be grateful for our life.

Take time to blow out those candles. You know the ones...

Cheers,
Van

friend4u178 · Sep 2, 2009, 07:03 PM

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vanheart · Sep 2, 2009, 07:05 PM

Nice one, friend4u!!

Killer, that say it all...

bella99 · Sep 2, 2009, 07:31 PM

Haha! That cake looks delicious! Thanks guys! I'm definitely going to celebrate. I turn 26 on Sunday - so its not some big celebration, but I'll turn it into one anyway. Plus now that I'm single I can celebrate with anyone I want ;) hehehe.

amicon · Sep 2, 2009, 11:00 PM

Have a great day. :-)

Annonimus · Sep 3, 2009, 12:10 PM

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bella99 · Sep 9, 2009, 02:08 PM

So my birthday weekend went well. Had fun - didn't see the ex. All of our mutual friends came out though for my birthday so that was nice!

I was down a bit here and there just remembering how much I had wanted him to hang out for my birthday - but I had a good time with out him. Been in a mostly good mood the past few weeks with some weak spots here and there. He did send me a Happy Birthday text - I replied and just said thanks - otehrwise I'm still doing the NC.

It's nice to feel lke I'm getting better. Stinks to feel down here and there still but not as much as before. Stinks he and I can't be friends but I suppose most exes can't. I'm glad I'm feeling like my old self again - I'm busy - making new friends - going to school - working - and having fun. The most important thing is that I'm feeling better about me :)

Hope you all are having a good week.

vanheart · Sep 9, 2009, 02:10 PM

Glad to hear, Bella.
You are doing the right thing. Keep it up!

kctiger · Sep 9, 2009, 02:54 PM

Stellar news Bella. I feel this thread is going to me motivation for others coming her in your predicament. You have done awesome! Keep making new friends and just have fun, remember, life is too short to wallow in misery! :)

amicon · Sep 9, 2009, 02:58 PM

Great news!

zippit · Sep 9, 2009, 03:07 PM

Just remember time is the healer it won't be long and you will catch yourself saying Hey I didn't think about him at all today and it will only get better from there good luck I enjoy your replies thanks

jmw0713 · Sep 9, 2009, 07:30 PM

You're doing great. Everyone has ups and downs... even those of us who have been dealing with this for a while. You're doing much better than a lot of people.

paxe · Sep 9, 2009, 08:39 PM

Yep,
There will be ups and down, but mostly ups from now on. Keep it up!

bella99 · Sep 12, 2009, 06:26 AM

Ugh I woke up in this kind of crappy mood. 2 of my friends are getting married to each other today. My ex is one of the groomsmen. I was supposed to go as his guest, as they didn't have enough money to invite everyone separately with a guest. Well since we aren't going out - I'm no longer his guest, and not reinvited due to lack of money. He is probably bringing the new girl.

I really wanted to go see them get married, but I understand why it didn't work out for them to reinvite me. Just stinks that the girl that barely knows any of the friends is now going to watch it all - when she probably could care less since she doesn't know anyone, and I get to stay home.

Oh well - I want today to be over since this was probably the last thing we had future plans to do together. I guess it kind of just hurts because I know where he is today. Doing no contact is great because you don't know what they are doing and you can't think about it if you don't know. But it really does stink when you do know what they are doing.

I guess some days are up and some days are down.