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    #81

    Aug 13, 2011, 09:50 AM

    Never measure how you see yourself by what others are doing, or treating you. Always set your own value, and do for yourself.

    get over it my friend, and stop thinking this is a pity party. Its not. Stuff happens in life, and you have to keep living. If you can't you will sit there looking stupid and wondering WHY ME.

    This happens to us all and we keep moving forward to thrive, and survive, and do our own thing.

    Doesn't matter what others do, or try to do. All that matters is what you do, so find something good to do, that makes you happy.
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    #82

    Aug 13, 2011, 11:08 AM

    Let go of the false hope. Why do you want her to come back? She has not changed, will not change. Why do you want to go back to being used?
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    #83

    Aug 14, 2011, 12:57 PM

    What is wrong with me. I am so for this girl that I just keep messing up. Still have not gone no contact. I can't do it. I don't know why even when this entire weekend I knew she lied to me, and last night as I'm driving home she is popping up out of this sun roof and her and her friend are shaking there *** at me and still today I want to see her. I want to be done, I do. I just don't know where to start. I know no contact and I'm trying but it just doesn't feel right and that scares me. I don't want to lose her but if she doesn't want me what can I do. That's all I'm hearing from her is partying this and out there... I want to be done. I really do. And then all today I have been texting her non stop just wanting her to answer a single text. I know I shouldn't be doing it but I do.
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    #84

    Aug 14, 2011, 01:29 PM

    And there it is... she finally answerd.. and gave the phone to I guess her new man.


    I feel like... ya know..
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    #85

    Aug 14, 2011, 02:07 PM

    Does that settle it for you, have you had enough yet?
    She is not the only girl in the world.
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    #86

    Aug 14, 2011, 02:11 PM

    That did it. I got my answer. Him answering the phone, I lost all love and care for her at all.
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    #87

    Aug 14, 2011, 02:35 PM

    Lets hope so.
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    #88

    Aug 14, 2011, 02:52 PM

    Daughtry-You don't belong.

    "‎"No, you don't belong to me! I think you lied to me and with my back against this wall, it's hard to be strong. No, you'd tell me anything, look what you've done to me. Still I tell myself that tomorrow you'll be long gone.""


    Living to these lyrics.
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    #89

    Aug 15, 2011, 02:53 AM

    Live that song for today but change the record tomorrow.
    You have still got you so work on healing and moving forward.
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    #90

    Aug 15, 2011, 04:34 AM

    Music can be a great tool for helping you find strength and ease the hurt. Just be careful to choose songs that encourage healing rather than wallowing in self-pity.

    An old song, but one whose lyrics still ring true: I will Survive by Gloria Gaynor (http://www.lyricsdomain.com/7/gloria...l_survive.html.)
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    #91

    Nov 13, 2011, 04:09 PM
    Going back through my records and I came across this and I actually have a happy ending. All this bull **** continued on until August 26th when we came to school. Bottom line is she cheated on me our first night at college and that was that. She actually called the cops on me because she didn't feel safe and that was the final straw for me. 2 Months later fate had it that I found someone that blows her out of the water and knowing what I know now I will never be in that situation again. So for anyone that reads this and wonders how all that turned out, yea it will suck, but I'm a better person now because of it.


    -Justin
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    #92

    Oct 26, 2012, 12:19 AM
    First up... don't have a girl "rely on you" for anything. There are in my experience, broadly speaking, two types of girls in this world, ones that seek to rely on you, and those that prefer to be staunchly independent. The former are generally quite happy to marry the first person with money they meet. The latter will usually have many relationship problems through their twenties and thirties until they become either cougars or mentally ill. About 2 out of every ten woman are actually normal. Sorry girls... other opinions are very welcome.

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