Ex Girlfriend Possible Mind Games. Signs and help!
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First off I will apologize in advanced for this being so long, just going to provide all details so you guys(gals) may be able to give me some helpful advice.
A little back ground info to start things off. I am 21, she is 18. We are both attending the same college come fall, and have been together for a little over a year and a half. We would spend every day together and she relied on me for almost everything. Shortly before Xmas we began fighting a lot. Back in January she said she wanted a break and then a week later we were back together. Ever since then it has been different and we both knew it but still pushed through.
Currently, it has been 3 weeks since all this started. It actually began 2 weeks previous to that when I began my new job. I was around less and she began chilling with this one friend all the time who honestly is a $lut. Those 2 weeks she began to become distant and more worried about the friend then spending time with me. This goes on for 2 weeks and then a Saturday comes which is her grad party. That morning I show up and I try and talk to her about how I'm feeling and how we have been and she wasn't having it. During her party she had her mom pull me aside and told me to leave. The rest of that day I heard nothing from her, but earlier in the day her friend that she was hanging out with told me that she just wanted me to be her best friend. I wasn't having it and told her that I couldn't be friends and I think that's was pushed her to make her mom tell me to leave. Sunday comes and I once again try contacting her and she just says "leave me alone, I need space." That night she sees me out and walks up to me, pulls me away form a group of people and asks why I'm with them... The rest of that week she was distant and short with me. Really didn't text me, until Friday. She texted me when I was at work and told me she wanted to chill that night. So I agree. She comes over and she lays in my bed and one thing leads to another and we have sex. She then proceeded to leave shortly after and the rest of the weekend I barely heard from her.
That following Tuesday we had to go to orientation together at college. She texts me that morning and asked if I was there and I say yes and then I don't hear from her the rest of the day until lunch time at which point she told me to meet her for lunch and sit with her parents. I denied. That night upon returning home she asked me to chill and we went out to dinner and once leaving the restaurant she found a ring in my car that I asked for back the day of her graduation when she told me to leave and she said she wanted it back and to wear it. Confusing...
The rest of that week I once again barely hear from her but she started doing a trend. Every night if I didn't text her she would start texting me wondering where I was and would eventually start calling at 1 am asking what I was doing.. This goes on for awhile and still does if I don't text her.
We are now at July 30th. Well this weekend she went away with her family. Wouldn't you know Friday night she texts me and calls me again, telling me "Dont cheat on me, all my ex's have when I have been away this weekend in the past, I love you."... Saturday night I get this, "I wish you were here with me watching fire works." Both nights she was texting me wondering what I was doing and where I was as well.
This brings us into this week. Monday I finally grow some balls and tell her I can't do this any more and that I'm throwing away her ****. She then responds and begs and pleads that she loves me and that she doesn't want her stuff thrown away so she comes over. She gets her stuff and we chill but nothing happens, we barely talk and when I try to see just blows it off. Tuesday once again I try and talk to her and find out she lied about having to go home so early Monday night and about working Tuesday and it leads to me once again telling her to get out of my life. She shows up at my house unexpectedly. I leave what I was doing with my friends and once I get home she says she can't do this and that I'm mean and leaves. I go to get into my car to go back out and she gets emotional and tells me not to go out. So I don't. Wednesday comes around and nothing, and then Thursday. I start by texting her in the morning that I wanted to see her Thursday night and she says something smart and short. I start texting her all day, with no response. That night I keep calling her and eventually she answers but has her mom answer and I just hang up. Since this point I still have not heard from her and it is currently Friday. I haven't texted her since 8 Thursday night and I have no idea what to do...
Since we she "befriended" me, she removed me from Facebook, but I have been able to still see what she has been doing because, unfortunately I have been on her email. So between this and friends of mine telling me what she is doing on Facebook and I have a pretty good idea what she's been doing and she has been going out with this $lutty friend since she's been done with me and when that friend is not around she's different and actually talks to me.
I love this girl and everything about her. I'm not a guy who plays games and I never have. I don't know what to do, how to act. Alls I know is I really want her back.
I feel like all this has to do with the fact that she spent all her time with me and now once I started working she realized what it was like being independent and now this... I want to do something but i feel by ignoring her she will forget me and just go further away..
I will take any and all advice into consideration... Thanks, Justin.