[xshorty_jessx]

Right here goes this is driving me crazy. My boyfriends friend basically gets involved in our relationship 24/7 he tells me I shouldn't talk to my boyfriend about my problems constantly as he has his own problems to deal with which I am aware of as I've been there for him, like a couple should be there for each other!
I am getting kicked out of home, so me and my boyfriend have decided on getting a place together but again his mate has got involved and has just been talking to me about all 3 of us getting a place together and to be honest I don't like this one bit at all I wanted it just to be me and my man, and by the looks of it my boyfriend might of agreed to this as he always puts his mate before me! But the thing I'm mainly worried about is that his friend said to me why don't you stay with your dad and pay board meaning he wanted my boyfriend to get an house with him instead of me but the thing is my dad is moving in with his new girlfriend which is pretty far away and lately we haven't been getting on! And I'm angry because it's me who's the one who won't have a home in a few week! And now I'm worried now that my boyfriend and his mate decide to ditch me and get their own place and I can't do being on my own at all I just don't know what to do at all now!
Living with his friend would really do my nut in to cause of the way he is!! So what do I do about this situation! I am really not happy that he were the one to discuss this with me when it should have been my boyfriend! Thanks for your time! X

[adam_89]

Have you asked your boyfriend if just you and him can get a place together and leave the other guy out?

[answerme_tender]

I understand that you are frustrated, but tread these waters very carefully. Remember boyfriends and girlfriends come and go, but close friends are hard to "Kick to the side" You are going to have to approach your boyfriend romatically when you talk about moving in and that you would be embarrassed to have a third party around. Let him know that your totally understand his friendship with his buddy, but that relationship can continue without his buddy actually moving in, you know two is company--three is crowd at least living together. If he doesn't want to leave his buddy out of the equation, then its up to you to move on. Do not make this a situation were you are depending on your boyfriend to be able to make it out on your own, either emotionally or finacially this is your responsibility not his!! If you make him choose between you and his best buddy you may be very disappointed. Good luck

[talaniman]

This is not complicated at all because its either you and your boyfriend without the friend, or nothing at all, and if your boyfriend cannot go along with that then you kick him to the curb, because he isn't as committed as you are.

This isn't about his friend, its about what your boyfriend chooses to do about his living arrangements.