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exenis · Oct 19, 2012, 09:06 AM

I don't really think that's true, she's a honest person she would tell me if she doesn't want to be with me but with someone else..

exenis · Nov 2, 2012, 10:57 AM

Hey guys..
2-3 weeks ago I started talking to my ex again after we broke up, we cleared up all the things about the breakup, I apologised for being a douche (being jealous, didn't want her to hang around with guy friends) and she told me that she will think it through whether she will give me another chance..

After the break up I didn't talk to her for a week and did not see her, so I tried to move on but after few days I just couldn't take it anymore like that couldn't continue being sad all the time, thinking whether we will get back together or not, so I called her and asked her whether we will get back together or not, and she said that we will be together again but just wants to pass some exams first in the university we both study.

I'm trying to respect her decision but its hard, sometimes when we talk on the phone she seems cold, most we talk about is university, exams..

I want to ask her again about getting back together again or not but I'm afraid by asking her again she will get nervous and decide not to.

Does anybody have any advice for me or not, I'm getting really desperate..

Wondergirl · Nov 2, 2012, 10:59 AM

And the more you bug her about this, the more turned off she will get.

Relax. Get your life together in other areas.

exenis · Nov 2, 2012, 04:03 PM

Originally Posted by Wondergirl

And the more you bug her about this, the more turned off she will get.

Relax. Get your life together in other areas.

That's the issue..
I can try move on with my life, I can try a lot harder, but I can't do that with her giving me this hope of getting back together again..
But if waiting is the only option for me, then I guess I have to endure it
(Sorry, I know I can be boring sometimes, but I'm just asking for some help)

Wondergirl · Nov 2, 2012, 04:18 PM

Get into life so you will be interesting for her. Now you are NOT!!

exenis · Nov 3, 2012, 07:51 AM

Just one more question..
Is it OK if I call her sometimes just to see how is she doing ?

Wondergirl · Nov 3, 2012, 08:21 AM

Originally Posted by exenis

Just one more question..
Is it ok if I call her sometimes just to see how is she doing ?

I say no. I strongly suspect you are history for her.

talaniman · Nov 3, 2012, 10:12 PM

Why must you learn about desperation and false hope the hard way? Oh well many of us do and will never give up until we have to!

This is going to hurt more later than it does now.

Alty · Nov 3, 2012, 10:33 PM

I'm trying to respect her decision but its hard

This is the whole point. This has always been the issue. You keep saying you'll change, you won't be so controlling, and yet you're still trying to control her. You haven't respected any of her choices, you keep contacting her when she asked you to stop, you keep nagging her about getting back together when she told you she's not ready. You won't give up the control, which means you'll end up losing her.

Until you learn that, you'll never have a lasting relationship.