[beachloverjohn]

If you break an arm, a leg, the doctor will put you in a cast and tell you how long it will be before you can use it again. You try walking on that leg before it's mended, it will not get better. A broken heart is different. The "cast" you put on it is an invisible wall around yourself and no one can penetrate, and you become numb and emtionally isolated, and all of this is preventing your heart from healing. But unlike the broken leg, you and only you can start the healing process. I think the biggest mistake we make is getting into another relationship too soon, because we need someone to help us get over that heartbreak. These rebound affairs do not fix the problem they just cover it up for awhile. But the day you tell yourself that you are no longer in love with that person, that you feel you are better off with someone else for whatever reasons you can come up with, and that you are ready to take another chance on love, that's the day the "cast" will come off. And most important, you are enjoying life again as a single man, doing the things that you use to enjoy, and feel really good about yourself, well that's the day the pieces of your heart are back together and you are once again ready to give your WHOLE heart to some lucky woman out there. But I can tell you this, the sooner you start living and caring about yourself, the quicker you will feel better. Because in order to be able to take care of someone else, you have to be able to take care of yourself.

[answerme_tender]

John that's dang good advice!!