[natalie25]

It sucks doesn't it! Feeling like you're not a priority! I suggest you stick with no contact too. If these guys broke up with us we shouldn't chase them. If they do call us than we can talk. Maybe later on they will regret it because being so busy leaves you with no life. I would think they would get lonely right? But for now we have to move on! Its hard but we have to. And maybe later on they will come crawling back but maybe not. Good luck too!

[Alty]

it sucks doesn't it! feeling like you're not a priority!! i suggest u stick with no contact too. if these guys broke up with us we shouldn't chase them. if they do call us than we can talk. maybe later on they will regret it because being so busy leaves u with no life. i would think they would get lonely right?? but for now we have to move on! its hard but we have to. and maybe later on they will come crawling back but maybe not. good luck too!

You aren't a priority, that's the point. The whole reason people break up is because they no longer want to be together.

He broke up with you because it wasn't working for him. To continue contact with you isn't necessary, you're the past, he has a future that he's trying to plan.

Chasing a guy that dumped you is a lost cause. If he does call I wouldn't answer. Are you that desperate? Do you really want a guy that doesn't want you?

No contact. Yes, it sucks. Yes, it hurts, but no contact is the way to go.

If he does crawl back, which isn't likely, would you want him? He doesn't want you. If he does crawl back it will be because he's lonely, you're familiar, you know what he likes. Those who do crawl back usually end up running away again.

You're no longer his concern, nor should he be yours.

[talaniman]

Yes we have feelings, and as hurt and disappointed as you are its for the best he leaves you alone. Instead of stringing you along he broke up with you as he isn't prepared to be distracted by you. That simple, and have you never had to leave a guy alone because you weren't as interested as he was? If you have, then you can understand where he is coming from.

Time to move beyond this, and do your own thing, as he has obviously done.

[natalie25]

After dating my boyfriend for 6 months. Who is older I had a very happy life. I was content with a more laid back life and not so big on partying. Now its been two weeks since we broke up. He's just to busy in his life with school and work. Which is very heart breaking for me. Its hard for me to be happy on the weekends because I liked my life the way it was before. I'm sick of being surrounded by young parties. And most of my friends like to party and stuff but I feel more mature then hanging with younger immature people. Its hard because its either go out with them or sit at home. I don't know what is better. I miss my life the way it was. Any advice on what I should do? Has this happened to anyone??

[A4Effort]

Well, I can tell you this that this has happened to many people before. I would advice to to keep busy by learning a new skill or picking up a new hobby. It will take a while to get used to this different lifestyle. A lifestyle where you do not have your significant other by your side at all times. Read through some of the stickies at the top of the page and see if they help you out at all. Keep us updated on how you feel.

Also, I am assuming that you are still in school since your partner is in school. Try to join a new club or go to a campus event. You can meet new people there and socialize. Hang out with your friends. I hope this helps a little.

[jmjoseph]

Take a class that has some older people in it. I mean a class after school. Maybe learn a second language, or how to play an instrument.

Just try to keep your time and schedule full.

Love will give us our highest highs, and lowest lows. You're just having a low point. It will get better, and you will look back on this and think, "wow, what a watse of time he was ".

I wish you the best of luck.

[BobbyVandeyar]

I try doing sum extra activities, maybe volunteering/joining up a club at school. Maybe spend more time with family. Do things to keep yourself occupied and at the same time productive and fun. You'll realize as your doing these things some traits about yourself that can make you a very very independent young lady. As if you are not already now haha =]

Hope u feel better.

[Cat1864]

Natalie, please keep all of your questions in the same thread. It makes it easier for you (no need to go into the full story every time) and us (we can keep up with your story and what's going on). It also keeps your threads from having to be merged.

Continuing education classes, volunteer work, etc. are just a few ways to get involved with more mature (thinking-not necessarily age-wise) people.

Give yourself time. Time to heal. Time to make new friends. Time to find yourself.

[natalie25]

Ok so I'm sure you all remember me maybe.. My and my boyfriend broke up about 5 weeks ago. We haven't talked much since. I called him awhile ago to try and get him back but it didn't work. Then I realized I had to move on so I finally deleted him from my Facebook. I guess he didn't like that because a day later he texts me and messages me, are we not friends now? I said yes we are. Haha. But anyway the day after that I get a text real late at night that said, I love you but I just don't know what to do. First of all the whole time we were dating he never told me he loved me. So I think its funny that night he got drunk and said he did. Does truth come out when people are drunk? Maybe he's embarrassed now for doing that because we haven't talked today. But maybe he's realizing I'm moving on and he wants me back? It just really shocked me that he said that. Can anyone give me some advice on what to do?? Thanks!

[amicon]

Ignore him. If you want to heal from the breakup don't stay in touch-and don't let his text confuse you.

[I wish]

Threads merged again

Ignore him otherwise you can't heal. Otherwise, you will just keep suffering. Change your number if you have to.

[Cat1864]

does truth come out when people are drunk?

It usually makes it easier for the drunk person to say what he/she thinks the other person wants to hear.

I think you need to see it as a ploy to get you to do what he wants. It sounds like he doesn't like the fact that you are working on getting over him. Unfortunately for him, his wants and desires are not your concern.

You have a life to live that doesn't include waiting around for him to decide what you are doing.

Good luck in the future with No Contact. Give yourself time and resources to heal.

[MsMewiththat]

Generally speaking people tell the truth when drunk. They lose their inhabitions as they say and it's like truth serum. However, it doesn't mean that he wants to be back with you. It means he has feelings. You could as him what the problem is and start by talking it out. If he is unable to talk to you about while sober, you may want to consider moving on.

[bjohnrupp]

Just ignore all his texts, emails calls IM's whatever else... apply no contact and see what his true intentions are.

Most likely he has a new girl and wants to make sure its going to work out with her before he gets rid of you completely. Make him miss you and disappear off the face of the earth starting right now!

[natalie25]

Thanks guys! Well I called him two weeks ago and that was the only time I contacted him. But when I deleted him I think that triggered it maybe for him? Do you think he is embarrassed for saying that? And doesn't know what to say? I didn't want to ask and I'm not going to bug him because like you said disappear. I want to make him chase me right.

[bjohnrupp]

Yea he is embarrassed most likely because he knows he probably shouldn't have said that. Yea you definitely want to make him chase you and if he doesn't then he doesn't care anymore

[MsMewiththat]

You don't want to play games. If you really want answers to your questions... ask... the only person that can tell you the truth his him.

[natalie25]

I would ask him.. but I figure if I don't get the answer I want ill be hurt more. It hurts he said that already when he was drunk and I don't know why. But I would rather leave him alone. And I'm already moving on. If he doesn't say anything later than I know. Its just so confusing cause to say that is so not like him. Stupid games.

[abc_abc_abc]

Well, when u are drunk u think u love a guy u met just 1 hour ago.
Don't do anything, don' think too much.
If he feels something he will come or call.

[bjohnrupp]

You're doing the right thing... if you ask him he'll just tell you some vague answer and it will likely lead to more confusion. Also if you ask him he'll just lead you by a string likely and will play with you more because then he'll know you're there for him.