[talaniman]

Dear exes, Thanks for kicking me to the curb, so I could meet the love of my life.
Love, your ex.

[ihatewestseneca]

Oh my God dude. That kicked @$$!

Thank you, thank you... (insert bragging tone) yes I'm an English major. Damn it feels good to write it where someone will read it, haha.

[spartan24018]

Dear Jamie,

How you been doing, girl? Hope you're happy. One question though, I don't know why you would put "sad" as your status when I told you in a blog that I didn't want to be friends with you anymore. If any, you should be "glad". I saved us a lot of months because knowing you, I know you would've only taken me for a ride and I still would've been on the sideline, wanting to take a shot at something that wasn't worth it. I liked how you totally ignored me for two whole months. Not even saying "Hi" in the hallways to a guy you once "loved", but have conversations with some guy till 2 in the morning (by the way, how do you like him calling you every 4 letter word he can think of? I find it hilarious). I thought I loved you, I really did. Haha, do you remember our first date? The one where we held hands, cuddled and had our first kiss? Yeah, I still kept the memoirs because I had some hope that we would get back together. It's funny how you showed me more then one way that I was wrong. Anyway, I made you a valentine's day gift as well as a christmas gift in November. I put the movie ticket where we had our first kiss and the first time I looked into your beautiful green eyes in the stuffed animal that I gave you for christmas. You might like it, you might not; I only know that I don't need any of that anymore. I hope you like it though. I've been filling the empty hole you left with music, my guitar, my friends and my philosophies on life. Thanks for kicking me to the curb, I'll never regret telling you that we're not friends anymore. You haven't met someone that treated you as good as I did but that doesn't matter. I just hope the next guy you meet, you won't smash his heart into pieces. Those were a hassle to put back together, you know? Anyway, I have to go to sleep, got school tomorrow.

P.S.
Looking forward for your quick glances to the opposite direction of where I am whenever I see you. I still smile whenever I think about you, except now it's for a different reason. I hope life treats you gently, my lost friend. This is the last goodbye I'll give you. Goodbye Jamie, it's been great. Peace be with you

[jiltedgirl]

Dear ___,

Thank you for never being direct with me about what you wanted and felt. Thank you for not having the courage to tell me you did not want to get back together. Thank you for leading me on and dragging me along for a gruel and agonizing two months. But most of all, thank you for helping me realize once again the reason that I broke up with you.

I'm sorry that I exploded in anger at you for essentially not acting like a boyfriend. We were/are over. I just couldn't accept it. I kept clinging onto the hope that you still cared for me and would want me back.

And don't get me wrong. I know you really did care for me at one point. I even know that you didn't know how to show it and that you wished dearly that you could change. You tried. But I guess I wasn't enough. It was unfair of me to ask you to change as a person anyway.

I'm sorry that you weren't enough for me. I'm sorry you had to see me at my weakest moments. You are the ultimate nice guy. It must have been hard for you to tell me it was over in your own little way. I bet you wanted to just yell at me to leave you alone so many of those times.

Today for the first time, I did not feel any resentment or anger. I'm happy for the experience and memories that you gave me. You taught me what I want and don't want in a partner. Like you said, "we tried our best. There's nothing to be sad about."

I know we said we'd be friends and hope we can someday. I hope you'll overlook my drastic measures to forget you (I'd be flattered if I were you!).

I'm just not ready yet to be friends. Give me time to heal. I hope you'll still want to be friends by the time I'm over you.

Your friend,
______

[cries]

Thank God I didn't send this! too angry


Hi Bobo,

What's wrong? You…that's what.

First of all you dump me and expect me to be your best friend overnight.

Secondly, you kept rubbing Bobette (his new gf) in my face. Quite frankly I told you I was not interested about hearing about her at all but obviously you didn't listen. Did you think it sat well with me when you kept mentioning her? Even same thing with your other friends…not everyone wants to hear about your intimate details with her. Keep it to yourself. Have some respect.

Thirdly, you put up a picture of her and you just to rub it in my face even more. You NEVER put up display pictures even when I asked you in the past... why now? To rub salt in my wounds?

Fourthly, thanks for lying to me towards the end of our relationship by telling me you loved me when you didn't. You obviously were not faithful, went behind my back without being honest. God knows what you did when I was studying my off at uni for my exams.

Fifthly, you hardly put any effort on our relationship and not even when I tried being your friend. I came last most of the time. Only when I was gone did you only want to talk to me or make an effort. Why? Oh I wonder why! Cause I was so good to you. I was there for you day in and day out. Came down for you when you were sick, bought you things to cheer you up, sent your stuff through the mail, talked and listened to you when you were sad/angry, bought you your meal/movie/drinks last time we met and so many other things I was not appreciated for.

Sixthly, all the threatening emails/messages you sent…if you would have stopped for a second and stopped thinking about yourself for once, think about my feelings. I've been through so much these few months…stop being so f****** selfish. Sure, delete me off everything, throw away all the presents I gave you, the letters, the photos and erase all the memories we had. You don't even have to remember me.

And today, when you purposely called me, you appeared “anonymous” so I would pick up. I'm not interested in talking to you. If I was, I would have talked to you online. How can you call yourself a friend when you have hurt me so much? What have you done to that Bobo I first met? Bring him back!

Don't you have what you wanted? Don't you have Bobette? Don't you have her friends? You didn't want me in the first place. How am I going to make a difference in your life? I respected your wishes, why can't you respect mine? I don't even feel we should even be friends. It's just too hard. It was always about you. Find yourself another 'friend' because I'm not going to be that substitute in your life if anything goes wrong with your relationships.

Hope you have your answer. Stop contacting me anymore unless you are truly sorry…but that doesn't guarantee any friendship.

___________

[Delow84]

This is my second letter, but I think I am in a different place...


Janelle,

You hated that I spent most my time playing video games, when I wasn't allowed to do much else. Well I rarely touch them now, I'd rather do the things I love to do. Guess you missed out.
You always thought I would leave you, or cheat, and that you couldn't trust me. When I did nothing but show my love for you. You ended up cheating, and when time goes on I hope that doesn't gnaw at you and make you not able to trust anyone else.
You even hated that I had a temper. When we fought we'd yell and scream. It's hard to not get angry at someone projecting what they are doing on me. I never cheated, I never wanted to. Getting accused of it, just showed what you were doing, and worried I would do.

I hope your instant gratification lasts longer. I hope you get over your issues and insecurities you always blamed on me. I hope your happy and you never realize your mistake.

Because I am becoming the man you always wanted, in my own way. I am living a great life now, even if your still on my mind at times. Maybe someday I'll make someone else as happy as you could have been. Maybe not. But either way Janelle, you really missed out.

Ernie

Ps You can beg for honesty all you want, but when you are a liar, you will never believe your getting it.

[jiltedgirl]

Dear ____,

I looked at the letter I wrote to you (above in a few posts) two months ago and all I can say is that I was so kind and considerate. Yet, you screwed me over, AGAIN, that following weekend BIGTIME. I played it cool for your sake, but you mistreated me. You didn't even apologize. I guess you're sick and tired of me getting angry all the time because I got so sick and tired of you.

Have a nice life. I hope you regret everything you did and that you lost me forever. I hope you get the courage to admit you were wrong someday, if not to me at least to yourself.

Except by then, I won't care.

Sincerely,
Me

[ISneezeFunny]

Since everyone's writing a second one... why not?

Dear sneezy's ex:

Why... how are you? How have you been? It's been a while since I've talked to you... but I've been relatively busy. Heard about your new boyfriend... hope that goes well for you. We graduate in 2 months, which means I probably will never see/hear from you ever again... so I wish you the best. Just wanted to let you know, I harbor no ill feelings towards you. I'm not mad at you... or your new boyfriend. Life's life. May we cross each others' paths again down the road. All the best.

Sneezy.

... that is absurdly different than my first one. I tried to make snide comments, but I have none. Only possible thing I can think of is: I heard your boyfriend's a MAJOR cheater... so good luck with that... and yes, the rumor you hear is true... most of your friends are hitting on me. Pretty hard. Sorry.

... yep. No bad feelings towards her. I feel like I got the last laugh out of this. Oh well.

[bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE]

All I can say is WOW! I think this is by far one of the best threads I have read on this site.

What a great idea!

Unfortunately for this thread, I have no exes worth writing a letter to because currentely I am with the first man I ever fell in love with. If we split then I will deffinintely post here! Hopefully not though.

How about for all those of you who are in a relationship and some things about that person makes you tick? There should be a new thread posted here for all things that you don't like about your relationship/lover.' Maybe I'm going to far..

[HistorianChick]

Dear...

I was the best thing you could have ever had and more...

Me

(To me, that is sufficient.)

[bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE]

You go Isneezefunny! Write away! No complaining though. Just things you would like to be worked out/changed.

[little firefly]

Wow! I haven't been around for a few weeks, but I'm so surprised and glad to see that this thread is still around. It was a big help to me to do it and I'm so happy that others here have found it useful as well. I was just re-reading the letter to my ex that I posted to start the thread. I'm so glad I decided to post it here instead of sending it! I can't believe I ever felt that way about someone who treated my heart like it was something that could be played with and then thrown in the dustbin... I almost have to laugh at how pathetic I was then. Thank God for time... it really does heal all wounds. Cheers everyone! :)

[friend4u178]

Wow! I haven't been around for a few weeks, but i'm so surprised and glad to see that this thread is still around. It was a big help to me to do it and i'm so happy that others here have found it useful as well. I was just re-reading the letter to my ex that i posted to start out the thread. I'm so glad i decided to post it here instead of sending it! I can't believe i ever felt that way about someone who treated my heart like it was something that could be played with and then thrown in the dustbin.....I almost have to laugh at how pathetic i was then. Thank God for time...it really does heal all wounds. Cheers everyone! :)

So glad your doing good now Firefly... it's funny how we look back and think how pathetic we sounded at the beginning , until we get off the emotional "Roller Coaster" ride.

[Delow84]

Ya even with the rare bum night, I remember things way earlier and I'm like "wow i was pathetic" Reminds me why I don't like roller coasters lol.

[little firefly]

Ya even with the rare bum night, I remember things way earlier and im like "wow i was pathetic" Reminds me why I don't like roller coasters lol.

You know I've never like roller coasters either... I think from now on I'll try to stay on the merry go round where I belong ;)

[Destro3000]

Hey,
How are you?

I had a dream today.. I fell asleep and everything was back to normal. I believed I woke up and you were there with me, your beautiful smile making me feel better. You put your arms around me and hugged me, but then I really woke up, and you weren't there and I was alone. I looked around to see where you were, thinking you had gone to the bathroom but then remembered that you aren't with me anymore. It broke my heart all over again. It keeps breaking my heart everyday.

I did the worse thing possible to make me feel better.. I started re-reading your old emails... the ones where you told me you would love me forever, and that we could get through this. Im sorry I didn't listen. I saw the pain in your words, a pain that I've been echoing for months. I just let all my guilt consume me, because I couldn't bare having hurt you. In many ways, I deserve all this pain, and you deserve the happiness you have now, even if its without me.

I remember after I left, when you told me that you still saw the love in my eyes. You were right. That's always been my worse part in acting, was hiding my eyes. You've always been able to tell when I lie or not from my eyes. You knew me so well.

In all this, in all the years we've known each other, we've gone through a lot of changes. This is the first big change in my life since I met you that you weren't there for me. Because right now, you're not there for me. I understand though. Im not trying to make you feel bad, or guilt trip you back into this. But when I saw you in December, I saw the same love in your eyes when you looked into mine. Maybe I'm just trying to prove it to myself, but I'm just asking you to not the make the same mistake I did by running away from the love I had. Maybe not today or tomorrow... but I refuse to accept that we're done forever.

Remember that summer when you went away for 4 months? I never did tell you how bad I felt. I used to snap at Andy cause he missed Alexa after a week. I missed you so much.

I was so happy when you came down for Star Wars. I had my baby with me for one of my favourite things.
Or when Tim's dad died, you were there for me, and him. And I loved you even more for it.

I know I've written many goodbye emails. They don't compare to the one you sent me in December. I don't think I've ever cried so much in my life. My brother hugged me tightly that night, as if I was just 5 years old... I saw him crying. My dad is really sad for me too. But then you tell me that I'm doing all this for nothing and that I act like it's a game. Its not. Its my life, a life that I'm clinging desperately to hang onto. And that's the problem.

Remember when you and I went to Boston to see my family? We had barely been together a year. We talked about the future lie crazy kids in love, on a single bed in my grandmother's house. That's the room where I broke down in tears when my grandfather was dying. You made it all better 2 years later.. We visited my grandfather's grave on that trip. I was so sad... and you said you thanked him for having met me. I thank him everyday for that. No joke.

This Christmas was empty without you. You were part of my family. You ARE part of my family. And I could feel you so close, all the great memories flooding me all the time. That's why I was so upset when I emailed you. I just hurt so much. As much pain as we've caused to each other, I know they would welcome you and me being together cause it makes me happy.

I know I'm not easy to love and be with. Im brutally honest and I don't think before I talk sometimes. But I never meant to make you feel bad or guilty for having a life outside of me. But I did... and I know that if I had been a better person all around, I wouldn't be sending you this email.

I realise this sounds like Pedram's last plea email when you broke up. But this isn't a plea. Ive begged enough, and you're not coming back. In fact, you're not even speaking to me at all. Its just an expose of my feelings, my thoughts, my memories, etc...

Im very sad that you don't love me enough anymore to be with me... It's funny, I remember you telling me that line about 8-9 years ago around this time. It was right before Valentine's day, and we had been going out for a few days. We didn't do much... we hardly spoke in fact. I was too nervous. You hugged me at school at my lockers in one of the most heartfelt hugs id ever had. I knew I had lost you then. You followed up with a crying phone call saying you didn't love me enough to stay with me, that you were sorry. After only two weeks, I was so sad. On one of you're emails in September (and you were right, it WAS September) you said I didn't love you from the start that we started going out. But I knew from that day when you broke up with me that I did indeed love you. Time went forward.. you found someone... I was sad... all the time. Once again, during the fall I didn't say what I needed to say to have you and it was too late. You had a boyfriend, you were happy. I was alone. I had pushed you away out of sadness... And I'm doing it again.

I guess I'm just hoping that history repeats itself. I just hope I don't have to wait as long as I did last time. But that's all I've got. Everyone is telling me that I've lost you and that you'll never come back. It seems very possible... but I can't accept that. I need to just hold on to that last glimmer of hope that you can love me again one day... its the only thing that's keeping from going.

My mom was crying on the phone today when I called her. She says that she can't stand to see such a tremendous person like me throw it all away because I'm sad. I don't think I'm that great. Especially not now. I don't feel worth anything, if the one person that didn't need to love but who did unconditionnally doesn't love me anymore, or not enough to choose me over anyone else, than what am I worth now?

I wish I had taken you back earlier. I wish I could be holding you right now. I can't believe that you're over me, but you have always been a much stronger person than you think. And you did. And I'm ed.

You keep saying time will heal all wounds. But this is a scar that can't heal, because everyday it opens up when I remember that I ed everything up and that the love of my life, my best friend, my only lover, is OK with just being friends with me from now on.

I know I said this a lot, but ill always wait for you Caroline. You not only have a place in my heart, but you are my heart. I can't just move on and stop loving you. Ive tried countless times. You may not be perfect, but you were and are perfect for me. For years people praised us as the perfect couple. I just hope one day we can prove them right by making all of this right. I have to hope this. Whether you believe it or not.

I remember when you sent me this song one day. Its always been in my heart when I think of you...

'Ooo. You make me live
Whatever this world can give to me
It's you, you're all I see
Ooo, you make me live now honey
Ooo, you make me live
You're the best friend
That I ever had
I've been with you such a long time
You're my sunshine
And I want you to know
That my feelings are true
I really love you
You're my best friend
Ooo, you make me live
I've been wandering round
But I still come back to you
In rain or shine
You've stood by me girl
I'm happy, happy at home
You're my best friend.
You're the first one
When things turn out bad
You know I'll never be lonely
You're my only one
And I love
The things that you do
You're my best friend
Ooo, you make me live.
I'm happy, happy at home
You're my best friend
You're my best friend
Ooo, you make me live
You, you're my best friend. '


There is no better way to express myself on how I feel about you. Ive been asking everyone why you won't come back to me. I wish I had an answer I can live with. But it seems that I ruined it all, and that you'll never love me again. That is the worse feeling in the world, you have no idea. Im responsible for ruining the best thing in my life, and now, you don't want to come back. I understand, but I'll never give up. You'll always be my girlfriend to me. Chris, the one and only person that knew the reel me and loved me for it. But now you don't. That hurts like you can't imagine.

I'll always love, I love you now. I don't know when ill be able to manage, but I know that I'm not getting over you. Ever. Im sorry if that's not what you want to hear, but I haven been over you for 8 years now. You're my one true love. No one else will ever compare, and I really don't want to have to compare. You win. You'll always win.

[kp2171]

forgot this one...

dear Miss Bryan,

you were great in bed, but lousy in the head. Two good years thrown away because you needed a "fix" from another man... and then called me to your bed cause he didn't get you off.

I had your crap packed and out on the curb the day I found out. Done. Bye-bye.

my only regret is getting you off that one last time.


=) man... that feels nice.

[Leonstryfe]

Hmm,

You broke up with me and said you don't love me anymore. Then you treat me like for over a month giving me false hope and you then find another person to be with within 3 weeks after a 4 year relationship with me. Then recently you ask me how I am, how my midterms go by text and tell me that in the future maybe I can talk to you again? Wow, you make it seem like it is a privilege for me to earn to talk to you especially after you did that to me. Even as we speak, your act of kindness is sounds so immature. You're not some Goddess to still treat me like that...

[Sean23]

I actually still question why I come back to this site, maybe I'm not as over the break up as I thought I was. And I have someone new as well, and things are great, I just still think of the ex quite often, and I cannot help it. As I've said in a previous post, I think I miss who I thought she was, as opposed to who she is now because I know she has changed abit.

Dear ex

Im not in pain anymore, but I still have a massive issue with regard to you meeting someone new so soon after we broke up. In fact, I believe the guy was on the scene before we even broke up, and that just plays on my mind so much, you even said you and him were texting each other the month before we broke up. It was a six year relationship and you have disgraced it by your actions. I know I wasn't the best boyfriend in our last year, but I never hurt you, cheated on you, treated you badly, I just didn't do anything special either, and I know where I went wrong. But nothing I did warranted what you have done. I know you are going out with that guy from work now, I found out recently, and that has just opened up the wounds that were beginning to close. Its been over 6 months now, approaching 7, and I feel betrayed by you even though we haven't had contact in months. I think you left me for someone else , and I don't forgive for it, and don't think I ever will.

I came so close to contacting you recently, I feel like I need you to say something to me like "i didnt leave you for somone else" just so that it helps me, but I know its too late for something like that. It just makes me feel down to know that you were working with the bloke whilst we were together, and he was obviously trying it on with you, or at least letting you know he liked you when we were together, because there is not a chance this all came about 3 weeks after we broke up. That's when I found out about him, because you sent me a text that was supposed to go to him, and you lied, and denied it so much. In fact you lied to me about so much stuff the day we broke up, I even asked you if there was anyone else you said no, but there was, or at least you knew something about another guy.

If this had been a straight brake up, without any of the other stuff on top of it I would be passed this by now, but you had to add more to it, you couldn't just let things be straightforward, and now after so long I still think of us together happy. I am happy with someone else now, and she is brilliant, and I don't want you back or anything like that, I just wish we never were together in the first place as it would have saved my going through what I'm going through now. I feel like the whole relationship was a waste of time, and still can't believe you didn't tell me you had a problem sooner. You didn't even want to work on it, you just told me you didn't love me anymore, and that was it. Well now I know why, because of someone else being interested, and you being interested back.

I don't actually feel any emotion writing this now, its purely psychological, my mind re running old memories for whatever reason, I just wish it was over now, as I've had enough. And I get annoyed at the fact that your proberly living your life now, with your new guy not giving me a second thought. So unfair.

Im not all right with you at all, and if I ever see you again it will be too soon, at least that's how I feel now anyway!

[bigbird213]

I hate to dig up an old thread, but this is a good one and I think some of the newer people don't know about it :)

This isn't really a letter I'd like to send to my ex, but it's a song which I would really like her to hear/read the lyrics of - but that's not the best idea. So instead, I'm writing it out here :)

Sometimes faith feels like doubt,
And sometimes I wonder if we'll ever get out.
Sometimes life hurts, just like now.
But you got to know its all going to come back around.

I wish you well, I wish you well
On this trip to find yourself.
I wish you well, wish I could help
But I can't help you find yourself...

Not so much sad, but describes my respectful and accepting feelings towards her. Was tempted to put it in a place she would see, but I'll refrain :)