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NowWhat · Jul 25, 2007, 10:57 AM

$1250. Isn't that bad actually for an attorney. When I thought about divorce, I check into it and the one I hired was $1500 and that got me a "clean" divorce. So, if it were to get messy - I would pay more.
Make sure you get one that you trust. If you don't think you got good advice - shop around. Most all of them offer a free consultation. But make sure of that before you go.

iluvky · Jul 25, 2007, 11:03 AM

I am disabled and he is constantly screwing me over I just want my house, child support and my alimny Is that too muh He's retired from the army and has a civil service job He travel around shops all te time, I get NOTHING

ScottGem · Jul 25, 2007, 11:03 AM

First, I would suggest you take a little more care in typing. Some of your responses have been hard to understand.

Second, please don't ask followups by e-mail or PMs, most of us won't respond to them.

You need to ask your lawyer to explain everything to you. If he is telling you can't get back support, ask why. If he is telling you you can't get much in support ask why! If you don't think he's looking out for your best interests then get another lawyer.

RubyPitbull · Jul 25, 2007, 11:15 AM

I agree with Scott. Your lawyer is supposed to be working for YOU. He is supposed to answer any questions you have and to do the work you direct him to do. If you want to sue your husband for divorce and for a specified support amount, your lawyer should be going after him full force. If he isn't working with you, you need to get another lawyer. What was the $1250 for? Was it payment for a simple divorce? That isn't what you expressed you wanted. Will he not do anything above and beyond because you don't have any more money to pay him? All of this should have been discussed along with how much support payment you require to be able to stay in your home, prior to giving him any money.

iluvky · Jul 25, 2007, 11:27 AM

My resposes have been bad because my computer needs some repair (sorry) I have asked the lawyer about why I can't get back support and she said because we were not legally separated I can't get back child support I explained that I am handicap with one minor child and my diability (MS) and she still says that doesn't make muc diference I also have to give up my ID card and won't have any hospitalization Basically again I'm screwed

ScottGem · Jul 25, 2007, 11:30 AM

Ok, yes that makes sense that you can't collect support from a time when you were not legally separated.

But as for the hospitalization, she should be making him pay for that. That should be part of the divorce decree.

NowWhat · Jul 25, 2007, 11:31 AM

Well, you can make that part of the settlement - the health insurance. Well - that was what I was told when I asked about it. It may not be forever - but I think you can ask to stay on the benefits.
And, that sounds right about the support - if there is no order in place then there is nothing to go after.

iluvky · Jul 25, 2007, 11:31 AM

I made another appointment to see a new attorney I am not happy ith the last one at all

ScottGem · Jul 25, 2007, 11:33 AM

Good for you. Most attys will give a free initial consult. Keep looking until you find one you are happy with. Don't worry too much about the expense, a good atty will get your ex to pay for his fees.

NowWhat · Jul 25, 2007, 11:34 AM

Well, make sure you have a list of things that you would like. Don't leave anything out. If there is something you want in the divorce - GO FOR IT. You can't go back once it is done and change it.
And remember to ask WHY - when they tell you something that you might not understand. I was told that you can put anything in a divorce settlement - you may get a fight, but you may not.

ScottGem · Jul 25, 2007, 11:38 AM

As Now said, you need to ask for whatever you want, not what you think you will get. A divorce settlement is a negotiation. You should not settle for less then what you think you need in child support and for him to cover your health insurance and attorney fees.

iluvky · Jul 25, 2007, 11:52 AM

I can't get back support because I wasn't legally separated I have another appontment wit another attorney I thought that having a woman would be in my corner, but nOOOOOOOOOOO

workcherrie · Jul 25, 2007, 01:33 PM

To be completely honest I have been devorced twice and got nothing... in fact I lost everything and I have come to the conclusion that it is just material and I am better off with out them or there help in my life and also it has made me a much stronger and happier person since I let it go!

NowWhat · Jul 25, 2007, 03:52 PM

Well, the first thing you need to do - after getting an attorney - is get a separation agreement filed. It will set up the child support payments and possibly (but I am not 100% sure) alimony payments. These will be temporary amounts until the final judgement comes. If he doesn't pay on those - then you can get him for back support. But only from the time that this was filed.
I would not waste time worring about the back support that you can't get right now. IF you can't get it - move on. There is no sense in being upset about something you can not change. Fix the problem and move forward.

iluvky · Jul 26, 2007, 12:28 PM

Can anyone give me any good information for a good healthacare and dental plan?

iluvky · Jul 26, 2007, 05:10 PM

I got some ne information. I will have to give up my I.D card and will have to get my own hospital insurance, what else can go wrong?

NowWhat · Jul 26, 2007, 10:02 PM

Sister, try to stay positive. I know it's hard. It probably feels like a black cloud is hanging over your head. It will get better. I know how it feels when life throws you a curve and you aren't ready for it.
I try to look for a silver lining in everything. It helps. I know, easier said than done - but if you can look for the positives - you may can forget about the negatives - if just for a little while.

iluvky · Jul 27, 2007, 03:01 PM

I am trying to keep a positive attitude but the stress is killing me I don't know hy some people can be so cruel. I hope that everything will be over soon, because I don't know how much more I can take

NowWhat · Jul 28, 2007, 08:19 AM

Concentrate on the things you can change. Worring about what you can not - it doesn't do you any good!
This will work itself out. You have got an attorney, the ball is rolling. It won't be going on forever.
Try and find peace - easier said than done - I know, but you have to try.

iluvky · Aug 3, 2007, 09:09 PM

Well, I've found out that the most that I can get is from him to pay the house payment, because the payment is high enough that I can't collect much more than that Oh well, I'll never do this again. (marriage)