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    #21

    Jul 7, 2013, 07:12 PM
    So what is the contact you do have with him? Phone and internet or sneaking to see him?
    And how much if any contact does your mom allow?
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    #22

    Jul 7, 2013, 07:14 PM
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    You just don't get it. Then answer this what makes you think you have to regain her trust? Her not letting you have this boyfriend?
    No..

    Quote Originally Posted by N0help4u View Post
    So what is the contact you do have with him? Phone and internet or sneaking to see him?
    and how much if any contact does your mom allow?
    Yea.. she doesn't allow any after she knew we were dating that's why I isn't telling her that we contact but we actually do nth wrong expect lyin on her

    And yes this causes me depression cause I'm not used to lying at her and trying to die after being hopeless in finding a way to work it out
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    Jul 7, 2013, 07:30 PM
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    And yes this causes me depression cause im not used to lying at her and trying to die after being hopeless in finding a way to work it out
    And how did you "try to die"?
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    #24

    Jul 7, 2013, 07:52 PM
    By cutting wrists but this always fails with me
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    Jul 7, 2013, 07:57 PM
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    By cutting wrists but this always fails with me
    And that is nice for your boyfriend in what way? It sounds like you don't respect him much either.
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    #26

    Jul 7, 2013, 08:01 PM
    You regain your mother's trust by obeying her, proving to her that you can be trusted.
    She does not trust you because you're a liar and a sneak. Change your ways.
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    #27

    Jul 7, 2013, 08:05 PM
    You will never regain your mother's trust by going behind her back and talking to the boy that she forbid you to have a relationship. Actually, by doing what you are doing you will lose more trust when she finds out. And she WILL find out.

    When she finds out, you will lose your phone and internet access and you will have NO way to communicate with him at all.
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    #28

    Jul 7, 2013, 08:15 PM
    And if u were in my shoe ,what would u do to balance it
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    #29

    Jul 7, 2013, 08:17 PM
    I would do what my mother tells me to do.
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    #30

    Jul 7, 2013, 08:19 PM
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    And if u were in my shoe ,what would u do to balance it
    You can't balance it. If you want your mother's trust, you stop your very bad behaviors (including cutting your wrists) and obey her (stop contacting this boy).

    Why does she want you to stop contacting him or being with him?
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    #31

    Jul 7, 2013, 08:26 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    You can't balance it. If you want your mother's trust, you stop your very bad behaviors (including cutting your wrists) and obey her (stop contacting this boy).


    Why does she want you to stop contacting him or being with him?
    She doesn't think I shall date now.
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    #32

    Jul 7, 2013, 08:28 PM
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    She doesnt think I shall date now.
    And you shouldn't. You cannot be trusted.
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    #33

    Jul 7, 2013, 08:29 PM
    To stop contacting him would cause me depression forever
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    #34

    Jul 7, 2013, 08:29 PM
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    She doesnt think I shall date now.
    She's correct. You are too young and immature to date. Sneaking around, lying, and "trying to die" show you are immature. Obey your mother.
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    #35

    Jul 7, 2013, 08:30 PM
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    And you shouldn't. You cannot be trusted.
    Fine
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    #36

    Jul 7, 2013, 08:30 PM
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    And if u were in my shoe ,what would u do to balance it
    You cannot balance trust with disobedience. It is either one or the other. If you want to regain her trust, you must stop sneaking around and lying.
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    #37

    Jul 7, 2013, 08:31 PM
    All of this is because she wanted to split us apart anyway
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    #38

    Jul 7, 2013, 08:31 PM
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    To stop contacting him would cause me depression forever
    Only if you choose to be depressed. You can choose otherwise, you know.
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    #39

    Jul 7, 2013, 08:35 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Only if you choose to be depressed. You can choose otherwise, you know.
    Losing someone who was a big part of your life isn't that easy
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    #40

    Jul 7, 2013, 08:35 PM
    You need to talk to your mom and tell her you are depressed. You need to stop cutting your wrists. You need to realize that it is normal to go through these kinds of things as you grow emotionally. Everybody goes through break ups and losing loved ones for whatever reasons its life. So many ex cutters have scars that will remind them forever and wish they had never done it.

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