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  • Jul 7, 2013, 06:02 PM
    Someonee
    How to regain my mom's trust?
    So I'm 14 and a half. My mum doesn't trust me anymore. She's actually against the idea of having a boy friend and I love him so much that we can't break up.

    She follows me sometimes when I hang out which is annoying, she thinks that I've broken up with him since she knew ,but we've been 7 months together after that. And I'm too in love to let go. I don't know what to do actually. But I feel so terrible and cunning all the time.
  • Jul 7, 2013, 06:10 PM
    N0help4u
    If the boyfriend loves you that much he will step back and be just friends and not go beyond your moms boundary. Like if she says talk at school, walk you straight home and he can visit an hour one evening a week supervised then he/you should not go beyond that.
  • Jul 7, 2013, 06:13 PM
    Someonee
    She doesn't know we're still communicating ,and we're not in the same school anymoree.
  • Jul 7, 2013, 06:14 PM
    ScottGem
    How do you expect to regain her trust when you are sneaking around behind her back.

    At 14 you just think you are in love. I'm sure it feels real to you but it is unlikely. If you want to ever be with him again, you tell him you need to stop sneaking around and show your mother that you are obeying her. You have to ask him to wait for you.

    You need to talk to your mum about why she wanted you to break up and how you can show her that he is worthy of dating you.
  • Jul 7, 2013, 06:25 PM
    N0help4u
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    Originally Posted by Someonee View Post
    She doesn't know we're still communicating ,and we're not in the same school anymoree.
    How can you ask about regaining her trust if you are still going to be non trustable?
    Sneaking, lying but trust me mom!
    Regaining trust is wiping the slate clean of what made the person not trust you and not doing any of those behaviors again.
  • Jul 7, 2013, 06:32 PM
    Someonee
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by N0help4u View Post
    How can you ask about regaining her trust if you are still going to be non trustable?
    Sneaking, lying but trust me mom!
    Regaining trust is wiping the slate clean of what made the person not trust you and not doing any of those behaviors again.
    Ok so what shall I do
  • Jul 7, 2013, 06:37 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:
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    Ok so what shall I do
    That's a good question for you to answer.
  • Jul 7, 2013, 06:37 PM
    Someonee
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by ScottGem View Post
    How do you expect to regain her trust when you are sneaking around behind her back.

    At 14 you just think you are in love. I'm sure it feels real to you but it is unlikely. If you want to ever be with him again, you tell him you need to stop sneaking around and show your mother that you are obeying her. You have to ask him to wait for you.

    You need to talk to your mum about why she wanted you to break up and how you can show her that he is worthy of dating you.
    Its because she doesn't agree that I datee. So in both cases ill be losing him like that.
  • Jul 7, 2013, 06:39 PM
    Wondergirl
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    Its because she doesn't agree that I datee. So in both cases ill be losing him like that.
    You'd rather have him or your mom's trust?
  • Jul 7, 2013, 06:41 PM
    Someonee
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    You'd rather have him or your mom's trust?
    Yes.
  • Jul 7, 2013, 06:43 PM
    N0help4u
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    Ok so what shall I do
    What I said in my first reply - only as much contact as permissible by your mom
  • Jul 7, 2013, 06:56 PM
    Someonee
    Quote:
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    What I said in my first reply - only as much contact as permissible by your mom
    She doesn't know we're contacting..
  • Jul 7, 2013, 07:01 PM
    Wondergirl
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    She doesnt know we're contacting ..
    And if she found out?
  • Jul 7, 2013, 07:04 PM
    Someonee
    Quote:
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    And if she found out?
    That's what I'm worried about,but I doubt she'll do.
  • Jul 7, 2013, 07:05 PM
    Wondergirl
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    That's what im worried about,but I doubt she'll do.
    Oh, she will, she will.
  • Jul 7, 2013, 07:06 PM
    ScottGem
    I told you what to do. Your mom WILL find out and you will lose him anyway. My way you have a chance of getting back with him in the future. If you really love each other he will wait.
  • Jul 7, 2013, 07:07 PM
    Someonee
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    Oh, she will, she will.
    And if u were in my shoe?
  • Jul 7, 2013, 07:07 PM
    N0help4u
    You just don't get it. Then answer this what makes you think you have to regain her trust? Her not letting you have this boyfriend?
  • Jul 7, 2013, 07:08 PM
    Wondergirl
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    And if u were in my shoe?
    I'd listen to what ScottGem says.
  • Jul 7, 2013, 07:10 PM
    Someonee
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by ScottGem View Post
    I told you what to do. Your mom WILL find out and you will lose him anyway. My way you have a chance of getting back with him in the future. If you really love each other he will wait.
    She hasn't for 7 months! And

    In those years I'm supposed to be not talking to him or what

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