[LearningAsIGo]

One of two things are happening here. Either he's a liar and never smoked weed -only wants you to think he's tough and trying to impress you by "quitting" OR he really did/does do drugs. Either way, that spells trouble.

The things he says to you and about you are disrespectful. Again, that's trouble.

It's one thing to flirt a bit but its trouble that he pushes you into other people.

Sounds like nothing but trouble to me which means there is no love. Girls should only date boys that treat them with respect, dignity and love.

[LaCiEtHeBeAsT]

Personally none of this is helping me.

[ScottGem]

personally none of this is helping me.

If it isn't helping you then you don't want to be helped. You have everyone telling you basically the same thing, that this guy is a loser who you need to run from.

[Fr_Chuck]

You are not being helped because you don't want to accept and believe the truth. It also appears since you don't know some of the basic maturity to understand some of the sexual and dating natures of what is happening.

[LaCiEtHeBeAsT]

Ik but I can't leave him, I just cant. He means the world to mee.. he stands up for me when someone's being mean to me. I understand that he is TROUBLE, Nd all that but at times he makes me feel wonderful, and perfect <3 u all he's bad for me but everyone @school and my friends tell me we are perfect. He is sweet but sometimes he can be a little harsh but he never meeans any of it because after he does something that upsets me or that isn't nice he will always say, 'im sorry, baby, I didn't mean to. I love you and only you, forevr<3 can you forgive me' but he actully has done drugs and I know he said he quit and how you guys think he's lying but truly think he is telling the truth, because he's not afraid about what other people think. He never lies cz he had the guts to be out there and doesn't care what people say or do.

[ScottGem]

Yes you CAN leave him. You are only 13 you will meet many more guys who will be good for you in your lifetime.

This guy is not. Of course he is nice to you sometimes. He likes having you around so he throws you a few bones to keep you hanging. Of course he tells you he's sorry until the next time. He doesn't love you or he would take more care to consider your feelings.

You need to talk to your parents about what is going on with him. They can hopefully help you deal with your issues of self esteem.

If the help you want involves staying with this punk, you aren't going to get that. Break it off. Throw yourself into something else, school friends etc. your feelings for him will fade and hopefully you will meet someone who truly cares for you.

[odinn7]

he stands up for me when someones being mean to me.

Really? After what you've said here it sounds like he is mostly the one being mean to you. The guy doesn't respect you at all and is only nice to you just enough to keep you around and use you for himself.

And to tell us none of us are helping you... as others already said, it's because you simply don't like what we're telling you and you're not willing to accept that we know better. You're not being helped because you don't want to hear this. You want us to tell you how awesome he is and how at age 13, you've already found your soul mate and the jerk that you're going to grow old with in life. Guess what? That's not how it is. He's a loser and you're better off without him.

[Fr_Chuck]

I agree, his is abusive and you are already getting into that cycle, he is mean but you forgive him and he does it again and again and again.

If he really cared for you, he would not be mean