[talaniman]

I don't agree. You both tried it didn't work, and of course he worries over the kids. That's a hard attachment to make and he may feel bad because they may have been hurt. That's normal, and he isn't a bad guy for it.

NOW, stop the contact, and speculation and blame game. While anger is a part of healing/mourning, don't hold on to tightly to it.

THE HEALING PROCESS

7 STAGES OF GRIEF

[vanheart]

I agree w/Tal.

You can try to analyze it until your head explodes.
This point is to stop living in the past. What's done is done & you were half of it. No one twisted your arm.

Read those links & the NC stickies.

Im not saying you shouldn't do some internal soul searching, Im just saying not to spend your time on him.
Hes gone.

[Confusedgirly]

Thanks so much vanheart, it's me I need to control these horrible negative thoughts and stop thinking I'm useless, unworthy that's what I need help with. What did u mean by nc stickies? X

[vanheart]

The highlighted links at the top of the page in the main Relationships section.

[talaniman]

The stickies are here, and NC is NO CONTACT!!