[rebeccahstrean]

He told me last night that he loves it now that I'm not to affectionate n I don't ever say it that it has meaning now.Sometimes I wonder if he just wants me for sex.why would he let me stay with him n stuff if that's all he wants

[rebeccahstrean]

So I got this ring for my boyfriend and its sterling silver. I had $20 and that's how much I paid for it. I don't want to do it at home cause that's cheezy so where do I do it. I can't do it outside... Its raining:( so then WHERE?? How do I not get shy when I tell him I have somehting for him and when I pull it out and put it on his finger?

I also forgot that it's a promise ring to him for our 6 month of being together:)

[Enigma1999]

Why would it be so bad to do it at home?

You could make him a really nice dinner, and give it to him during.

Or, you two could go out to dinner and give it to him then.

[Cat1864]

Rebecca, slow down. Think about what you are doing and why. Be honest with yourself and him.

Is he now giving you the emotional support you need and being understanding of the grieving you are going through?

Are you trying to buy his affection with a ring and other things because you are afraid or don't want to be alone?

[Eileen G]

Why are you giving him a ring? Between a man and a woman, giving rings is very significant. To be honest, if I had been going out with someone for six months and he gave me a ring, I'd freak out, and I'm not a guy.

If you want to give him a present, get him a keyring.

[talaniman]

From what I have read in your other posts, you would go crazy if you can't express yourself. That's cool, but don't expect the same thing back, as he may not even be thinking 6 month anniversary, and gets you nothing, so please when you give him the ring, tell him you want, nor expect anything from him, or a nice gesture can cause conflict. It's a really nice gesture though, and don't get me wrong, be aware that your emotional enthusiasm may be a bit overwhelming for this fellow.

In the future just curb your enthusiasm with some thought, that tempers your actions as he may need more time to adjust to you after only 6 months, and I understand the emotions from what you have been through very well. You really do need more outlets for your feelings than just him. Bet you love animals too, don't you?

[rebeccahstrean]

Comment on talaniman's post

Yeah I LOVE animals:):) Pugs are my fav. But I can't get one till December.. that's when well be moving:) I can't wait

Comment on Eileen G's post
He gave me a promise ring our 3 month annivarsary. And he said that if I got him one he would wear it everyday and love it :)

Comment on Cat1864's post

I'm not scared to be alone. And no... He's really not there for me for the grieving proxess but I can do that all on my own. I've just been putting it on a cloud and it helps me.

I'm not buying his affection. I want him to trust me more and know that I will NEVER hurt him

[rebeccahstrean]

I have tried this and he blows up and gets mad.

[JudyKayTee]

It would be helpful if you would stick to one thread containing the same facts - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/mental...-582076-3.html