[jmjoseph]

I AM completely over him, its been a whiiile.. hes not over me though, apparently.
im actually in the healing process for somebody else right now (my other post)
i like being around him though, im not reallyy tryingg to play games..

No, you are not over him. Why else would you be sharing this here?

You should take some time to yourself, and grow up.

How old are you anyway? Because these are the types of games that one plays when they are 13.

And the "other" guy told you how 'perfect" you are. Well no one is perfect. Especially someone who plays games like these.

[amicon]

You do the healthy thing and stay away from people and situations that only bring confusion and emotional upset into your life.

[coruzzi2]

No, you are not over him. Why else would you be sharing this here?

You should take some time to yourself, and grow up.

How old are you anyway? Because these are the types of games that one plays when they are 13.

And the "other" guy told you how 'perfect" you are. Well no one is perfect. Especially someone who plays games like these.

I was exaggerating when I said perfect. I'm not thatt cocky.
Really, because when I was 13 I didn't even care about boys.
Didn't even have my first boyfriend yet! Ha

[coruzzi2]

Threads merged

Well guys.. I didn't do what you said...
I went back to him. (the guy afraid of our chemistry, not the ex)
I DID do what you said about the ex though, didn't see him the whole time he was in town..
Cause I realized you were right. I was being dumb and immature.
I do care about him, so don't want to hurt him. So that's why.
I wish though, if I had to pick one to listen to you guys on, that I reversed that.
Going back to justin (thats his name) was indeed a mistake.
I don't necessarily regret it, I never regret.
But so here's what happened..
He called me up and told me he realized that with all the he has going on, he'd rather just go through it with me on his side, and that he was stupid and sorry and blah blah blah..
It was pretty passionate and genuine,. and I'm the girl that just follows her instinct, so I went along with it.. and we hung out..
I went over his house.. we laid down, watched TV.. kissed.. the usual stuff we did before all that happened.
It went well, but he had to go to work so we both left.. and he said he was going to hang out with me after work too, but he didn't know what time that was going to be... but probably around 11 or 12.
So I was just hangin out at home.. and my friends hit me up and told me there's a kickback and whatever, I wasn't wild about going anyway.. but I said well I got plans at 11 or 12 so if you guys get me back by then ill go.. and they said no, they want to stay later.. so I was like okay.
1:00 comes around and I still haven't heard from him...
Meanwhile, I'm getting texts from someone we both know saying that he heard him saying stuff about me and that he's a shady character and a lot of stuff like that.. I didn't believe it because this guy doenst like justin at all and is like in love with me.. literally. So I nicely said good looking out.. but wanted to discuss it with justin, not because I believed it.itexted him saying "i really need to talk to you.. i hope your still at work" he wrote back at almost 2a.m when I KNOW he can't be still at work saying "oh im out with my friends right now ill call you in a bit.. i got upset but didnt reallyy act mad towards him, but he said im acting weird. so hours passed by and still no call. so at this point i was very upset.. its like 4a.m and i send him a text a lot like this:
"all right, obviously what we have here isn't mutual and is not going to work out. We discussed today that we both know ill be here for you no matter what it is, what I'm doing, or who I'm with.. nice to know it's the same for you. Here I am sitting at home and my friends offered me to go out.. I told them I had plans to see you at 11 or 12 and if I'm not back by then than I'm can't go.. they said no, they want to stay later. So I didn't go. Come to find out that your out with your friends and didn't even take a sec to call or text me. But I guess in the end I musst be just acting weird or I'm flat out crazy"

no reponse.
the next day, i know he worked at 11.. so if i was gonna get a response it would have been by then,. so at 10:30 i asked him if he got the texts.
he said something like:
"yeah, you are crazy. My friends are very sporatic I didn't know they were in town.. you spoke your mind and told me how you feel"
he said watch what you say or ill vanish from your life.

i said
well if its that easy for you to do, than go ahead.."


Cause keep in mind that this guy supposidly loved me.

His response:
"bye"



I was devastaded. I realized that what that guy was telling me was probably after all true.
So I told him "k. tell aaron i said thanks for letting me know"
Then he called me a hoe and said other hurtful things..
I said
You don't just drop someone you love over something this dumb. I'm not trying to tell you how you feel.. but I'm telling you that your feelings must be wrong"

He said he just hates drama and fighting and whiney people..

I don't understand how telling him why I'm upset makes me a dramatic, whiney hoe.
??

I'm not asking what to do.
I know what to do..
Move on and get over him.

I just need some kind of emotional support,
Help getting over it.

And I'm not just crazy. Right?
I had a right to be upset.
I'm not dramatic.
I'm not immature.

[Fr_Chuck]

Yes you are assuming love that takes months and months to build and confusing lust and perhaps friendship.

You take time with a relationship and build up the friendship

[coruzzi2]

yes you are assuming love that takes months and months to build and confusing lust and perhaps friendship.

You take time with a relationship and build up the friendship

Yeah you're totally right. And that's FOR SURE what he's doing..

[talaniman]

Sometimes it takes going through events like you had to see the true nature of a person, and see how wrong you were to 1) take him back, 2) believe him as being sincere.

Lets face it, a simple call or text, would have eased your mind, and been considerate. He chose to forget you, and do his thing, and then have the nerve to call names, and not, at least, apologize.

He is a piece of work you can do without.

No Contact with him forever, and do your healing, and enjoy being single.

By the way, this is more of a payback, and not a screwing!!!!

[coruzzi2]

Sometimes it takes going thru events like you had to see the true nature of a person, and see how wrong you were to 1) take him back, 2) believe him as being sincere.

Lets face it, a simple call or text, would have eased your mind, and been considerate. He chose to forget you, and do his thing, and then have the nerve to call names, and not, at least, apologize.

He is a piece of work you can do without.

No Contact with him forever, and do your healing, and enjoy being single.

By the way, this is more of a payback, and not a screwing!!!!

Thanks :)

[coruzzi2]

So get this guys..

Not sure if I mentioned this part before..
But that guy justin and I work together..
And a few days after that breakup..
We got a call at work stating that he's in jail!
Something about a warrant..
And the best part is... the call was from his GIRLFRIEND, nicolette (the 'crazy ex girlfriend')
I then talked to a mutual friend/coworker of ours..
And he said that this guy was always talking about this girl while we were dating..
He had a girlfriend the whole time.
And he's in jail.
Wow.

I really lucked out!
Thanks for trying to warn me guys..

:)




And as far as that ex boyfriend goes..
Me and him are friends.. we talk a lot..
He knows my standpoint..
And I haven't been misleading him..
But he said he's falling in love with me again. :o

[Enigma1999]

Helo C,

Glad to see things worked out for you. Take it as a blessing in disguise. I can clearly see that you are a cute girl, for you don't need that kind of drama in your life. You can do better.

Good luck.