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    #21

    Nov 25, 2009, 10:02 AM

    She might be missing you but try the no contact rule. It will help a lot.

    Check this out:

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...qs-332732.html
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    #22

    Nov 25, 2009, 10:03 AM

    So if I just continue my cold replies and keep ending conversations, there might be a chance she's going to come back?
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    #23

    Nov 25, 2009, 10:04 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by justnidhelponly View Post
    so if i just continue my cold replies and keep ending conversations, there might be a chance shes gonna come back?
    I thought you were content with ending this? I guess not. Maybe ignoring her will make her realize what she had and that she wants you. It could also blow up in your face. Proceed with caution.
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    #24

    Nov 25, 2009, 10:06 AM

    Haha I wanted to but I really can't. OK I will, thanks for your help
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    #25

    Nov 25, 2009, 10:16 AM
    If you're going into no contact or sending cold replies in hopes of "winning her back," then you're setting yourself up for a huge disappointment.

    If she wanted to come back, she would do it on her own. What you do won't change the way she feels.

    The reason you should go into no contact is so that you can heal from the pain and suffering.
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    #26

    Nov 25, 2009, 10:17 AM

    OK will try.
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    #27

    Nov 25, 2009, 10:18 AM
    No one is forcing you to do anything. We're just helping you point out the possible consequences of your actions.

    It's your choice what you think is the best approach.
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    #28

    Nov 25, 2009, 10:19 AM

    haha now I feel so foolish doing so many things for her. Anyw thanks =D
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    #29

    Nov 25, 2009, 01:18 PM
    You can stop feeling foolish by leaving her alone, and getting a life you enjoy without her. Why she contacted you from boredom, or whatever, is not the issue at all. She didn't want to talk about getting you back, and that's the point.

    Leave her alone, and ignore her calls, or be strung along for her entertainment. That's the bottom line, as you need to step back, and stop wishing, and hoping she changes her mind, and start living for yourself, or you will forever have that false hope of renewed romance, and be feeling foolish when it doesn't happen.

    Forget what you did for her in the past, and do for yourself, in the now.
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    #30

    Nov 27, 2009, 01:07 AM

    Haha, I'm using the nc rule but now she just kips trying to talk to me. I'm still giving her short and str8 to the point replies and am still trying to play hard to get.
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    #31

    Nov 27, 2009, 01:16 AM

    Take the no contact all the way and don't reply at all.

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